Hi Marydean,

I don't think there is a magic answer.....

My mother is a lesbian, with a long-term partner. My DS is turning 10 soon, and he has never known her without her partner 'attached'.

I remember him once asking why Grandma didn't have a husband, and I just explained to him that she was once married to Grandfather, but they didn't really enjoy each other's company. He said to me "So, Grandma likes ****'s company?" - to which I replied "Yes".

We have not discussed the Facts of Life with DS - but at sometime soon I suppose - but I don't intend to discuss anything related to my mother. I suppose my mother really didn't set a particularly healthy example for me when it comes to discussing such things - as she has never spoken with us about her life choices - presuming that we are ignorant(?) or none of our business(?).

I am not sure how we will approach this exactly - but I will work on it when the tough questions come..... (if they come)......

I don't think I have been very helpful, but I hope that you find the right approach!

cheers!