Same donor or different donor for siblings?

[Caramello]

My husband and I are using a sperm donor - so we have similar decisions to make.

To answer the question about using the same donor - if we decide to go again I will be using the same donor. We have his sperm in storage at the IVF clinic we used. I would prefer this so that the children know that they have the same biological background.

To answer the question about known donors - we were very lucky that we had a friend that was willing to help us out. Our FS recommended asking people that we knew, although this friend stepped forward before we needed to start asking around.

Your other options are asking a family member (which unfortunately didn't work out for us) or I *think* there are advertisements in different newspapers.

I know there is a site for egg donors - not so sure for sperm donors

Hopefully that's been of some help.

[Indadhanu]

We used an unknwon donor so may not have the luxury. We'd prefer it because Shel will be bio-mum next time so that would be nice for Jazz, but it won't change our decision to have another child if we can't use the same donor.

[JORACH]

Thanks Shades for the FS recommendation. He was actually the one that I was going to start with. And thank you for the link to the abbreviations forum. I tried looking before I asked but obviously didn't look hard enough

We have thought about asking family members. Not sure if my family would be too accepting of that and I think it would make telling our children the truth more difficult. But I do love the idea of me using a donor from Jo's family and Jo using a donor from my family.

Really wishing that I could just produce the little swimmers myself Wouldn't that be great. Ahh...*signs*... I can only dream.

[Sally2]

As Sal will be the only tummy mummy, we have been very lucky in that all our kids will be biologically 'the same' ( not that I truly believe it matters, but it is nice for a familly to look similar) We went through Melbourne IVF and have friends of ours that are about to start IUI with the same donor as their little girl, but with a different tummy mummy. They have incured more costs to do it that way, as Melb IVF insist on treating the second tummy mummy as a brand new patient, not as the partner of someone who has already done the journey, but they were quite happy to 'hold' enough sperm for their family to have as many kids as they want, regardless as to who is carrying them.
Good luck on your journey ladies, hope to see you in the preg announcements forum soon