Hi,

Well my partner and I have started thinking about getting pregnant, because I opened my big mouth and said it was something I was hoping would happen when I was single (I have a male mate that I meet up with occasionally for "that sort of thing"), but being on the infertile side of life, in 2 years, nothing's happened, so I'd pretty much given up on it happening naturally, and that I was going to need some fertility drugs to help me along. And I'm ok with being a single parent and uni student at the same time, call me crazy, but that doesn't scare me.

Well... it scares the crap out of my girlfriend.

The only thing we've agreed on is the fact that whoever gives birth, that surname is it (so my kids will have my surname, hers will have her surname).

Everything else... it hasn't really been a discussion... more a bulldozer NO.

There's a long and complicated story here. I tried writing it and it sounded so awful I deleted it. lol.

I'm cluckier than a hen house without a rooster, and so is she.

And while it's fine for her to go shagging her ex (until recently, 2 days ago I got told that was my fault she does it, because I don't put out often enough, so she has to go get rid of her hormones some other way, therefore it's my fault she shags him. WTF?), add in it's now NOT ok for me to keep my casual friend (who also happens to be an ex of mine, we worked well as friends, but we weren't any good as a couple and we tried it twice). So while it was ok for me to have my casual friend, it's not now. But she can still have her ex if I don?t put out ?x? often. (Either I?m going insane, or I have a right to find that a bit wrong)

Oh it should be noted that I never committed to this relationship, I only agreed to it if it was an open relationship - because I pretty much wanted to stay single - she changed the rules this week, I?m still coming to terms with the fact that one day she came out with enough stuff that a relationships counsellor would have a breakdown.

I'm thinking it's probably NOT the best idea to go getting pregnant, and put some poor soul in the middle of our endless catfight (or so it seems at the moment).

But I did say I'd look into ways that didn't require a man to naked in the same room. But a search on "lesbian IVF" in Google, gave me heaps of IVF sites, but for love or money I couldn't fine one that deals with lesbians in Queensland.

I've tried reading over the posts here, but I don't understand all the abbreviations, so I don't really know what anyone's said.

Help would be good if anyone has any to give

Thanks :-)