But do you really want to bring a child into the world that if you break up your partner is going to have legal rights to for the next 18years????
Actually, thats not legally the case. In fact, even though I *wish* Shel had legal rights to Jazz (YKWIM, like medical etc) she doesn't. Of course, there have been court cases when there judged has granted access and rights to the non-bio mum its not an automatic given.