Whats going on with my body??

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I got my first AF 6 weeks after having DD. It was then smack bang on time for 2 months then it was a couple of days late, then a week and not i am 10 days late.

Though i am confused this month as i had the cramping, sore boobs and slight nausea which is normal for my PMS symptoms but nothing..

I have started on Zoloft for my PND would that have messed things up??

There is a possibility of being pregnant as we have DTD a few times and all times we didnt use anything but he didnt finish in me.

[Fleur]

There is a possibility of being pregnant as we have DTD a few times and all times we didnt use anything but he didnt finish in me.

Well, like you said, there's still a possibility of being PG. I'd be testing first just to rule it out.
Goo d luck

[Mum2Romone]

I didn't get AF for 8 MONTHS post partum so I'm no help babe, but if there's a chance? Then TEST!!!!!

[PumpkinZulu]

Not sure hun, like others say, AF can vary. I do think though, that unless you AND DP want to be pregnant again now, you should look at some form of contraception, so that you're not having the worry of wondering whether AF will show every month. Xx

[*LittleMissSummer*]

You would think by now that i would have learnt my lesson. But it really is a matter of if it happens it happens.

I just don't have any feelings... well im not sure actually if im just reading into things too much.

I am not a big seafood eater and i have been eating a lot lately. Prawns have always looked gross to me but i HAD to have them the other day.

Arghh i just have to make myself walk to the shops and get a test!!

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Not sure hun, like others say, AF can vary. I do think though, that unless you AND DP want to be pregnant again now, you should look at some form of contraception, so that you're not having the worry of wondering whether AF will show every month. Xx

Its not ideal right now all things considered but it wont be unwanted.

[PumpkinZulu]

Definately test, you don't need any more stress in your life atm so at least if you test you're not worrying and can put your mind at ease.

[MummaSue]

It could be the ADs messing around with your cycle. The side effects of ADs are many.

[PumpkinZulu]

I also think you need to sit down with DP and discuss openly whether or not the both of you want another baby right now. To me, it feels like you really do, and if that's the case DP needs to know that. Obviously he realizes it's a possibility, getting AF + unprotected sex will always bring about the possibilty of another baby. But I think actually talking about it out loud, discussing why you both are taking the risk each month would be really helpful to the both of you in defining what it is that you both want, and whether or not, given the circumstances, what you want abs what you need are marrying up

[*LittleMissSummer*]

You are right Lily, i would love another baby. I just have the strong feeling that im not complete and i would love a sibling close to DD's age. I understand that DP wants to just enjoy DD a bit more but it is something we need to discuss because if he isnt going to use anything and neither am i then how are we preventing getting pregnant??

I was about to leave for the shops and its started pouring down with rain, side way rain as well so theres no chance of going out in that

[LimeSlice]

It isn't uncommon for your periods to take time to get back to regularity after pregnancy, even though it returned so quickly (which usually happens when you don't BF).
Give your stress levels lately too, again, not uncommon for it to mess with your hormones, and the Zoloft will not be helping.
The side effects of the Zoloft itself also can be what you are reading as pos pg signs.

You REALLY need to sort out with DF the use of contraception. You are not ready for another baby, you know this, despite how much you want one. And if he has expressed a desire NOT to have another one right now, then you need to start taking responsibility.
Condoms are easy, if he won't wear one, then no sex. Simple.
As you aren't BF you could go on the pill, you could also use a diaphragm.
There are so many options, burying your head in the sand and hoping you will get pregnant despite knowing DF isn't ready and neither are you, is not going to do any of you any favours.

Time to start acting like an adult and take responsibility.

[ss_storm]

have you mentioned before that you have PCOS? Or am I just imagining that..my memory can be pretty terrible!
Could also be due to stress/worry and your new meds..don't go jumping the gun too quickly. Didn't you have a false alarm just a couple of months ago?

[~clover~]

If you are just starting on meds for PND, its probably not the best time for another baby. You need to sort yourself out first.
As they say, if its not on, its not on. Is there a reason you haven't done anything about contraception yourself?
Hope you can get a test soon.

[PumpkinZulu]

So did you test, or speak to DP? I hope you can both sort something out contraception wise, as others have said, maybe right bow is not the best tine for another bub, best focus on the one you have first. What the heart wants and what you actually need can be very different things. Although I understand you'd love to be preg now, I'd hate for you to have another baby without resolving your issues with DP not helping, PND etc etc.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I didn't test and i haven't spoken to DP yet. I will have to wait until next week as our money is tight at the moment. I will be speaking to my GP after chrissy about the pill or some kind of contraceptive. I really do need to focus on myself right now.

Ive been extremely tired and not at all energetic and i think another child right now would just not make me cope at all.

Thanks for your words, and for being tough on me.

Limeslice - thank you!!! i really do need to start acting like an adult and be responsible

[LimeSlice]

It is an adult thing to admit you want something but can't have it yet.

Be strong, focus on getting YOU where you want to be - you are doing a fab job taking those steps so far.

[Taurean]

Limeslice - thank you!!! i really do need to start acting like an adult and be responsible

Limeslice gave you some excellent advice. I hope you really take on board what she said hon. She was brutally honest but I agree with her and believe it needed to be said.

You need to fix yourself first - that is your number one priority. Get your meds sorted out and definitely get onto counselling. If you speak to your GP about it again they can do a mental health assessment on you and you will then have access to a Medicare rebate on psychologist appointments. When I was seeing my shrink for onset depression a few years ago, I was paying $40 for my hourly appointments instead of $150. A friend of mine actually got access to free psych appointments when her marriage ended so you may be able to find the same.

I honestly think psychologists or psychiatrists are the ones you really should be speaking to about ADs too. It's their field, they know a hell of a lot more about them than a normal GP. Counselling is so important for mental health issues as well. IMO, taking ADs without counselling (for things like PND, onset depression, etc) is like being a diabetic and taking insulin but not watching your diet. They just go hand-in-hand.

I know what it's like to have the burning desire to want a baby, it's full on. I also know when the time is not right and, as Limeslice said, I know how to take responsibility for my actions and act like an adult. DH and I had major issues in our marriage a few years ago now and I desperately wanted a baby - I was off the pill, charting and all that jazz but I then realised the timing was all wrong. Brining a child into an unstable marriage would have been foolish and selfish. We postponed the baby making for 2.5 years! Our marriage was rock solid by then and we both knew that a baby was the right thing for our relationship. I know, from reading your posts, that you know all too well how full on parenthood can be and the strains it can put on you and your relationship. Keep that in mind when the desire kicks in again - you have a lot on your plate at the moment.

If your DP isn't keen on condoms then tell him to steer clear. Is there any reason why you're not on the pill already? It's cheap (much cheaper than another baby!) and effective so if your DP is really not into comdoms then that would be your next best bet.

Good luck hon. I really hope you get things sorted sooner rather than later. You're doing a great job as a mum though, just remember that.