I have a horrid four year old too. She has attitude plus. This afternoon, it wasn't fair that I was making her and her brother pick up toys they had played with before they went to bed. She *****ed and whined the whole time she packed up. When I asked her why it's not fair, apparently according to her, it's my job to pick up their stuff. Yeah, this is from my 4 1/2yr old. Little petulant brat! Unfortunately it was the straw that broke the camels back and I couldn't resist the opportunity to have a rant at her about the amount of stuff I do every day that I have no part of making a mess out of (like wash her clothes, change her bed, wash her dishes...), rather than ignore it all. Though to my surprise, she did apologise. But it was more of a 'I think she expects an apology or something' kind of apology rather than heart felt, lol. She really does know which buttons to press to bring out my bad side though!