Do whatever's best for the bond between the two of you.

Advice given to me by an ABA counsellor when I was feeling very guilty about failing dismally at BFing and geting into a right old state - which was not good for mine and DD's bond if I was stressed out and knackered. So I expressed then FF and believe that was the best choice for us at the time.

I also thought back to that advice when I decided to put DD into occasional care for a few hours a week. I realised that me not having any time to myself (DP often works weekends) was actually detrimental to my own happiness levels which meant I had less energy to be a mum than if I gave myself a little break now and again.