well yesterday and last night were soooooo much better Ds2 settled fairly well yesterday (apart from normal witching hour from 4-8pm) and slept like an angel last night! He went down at 8:30ish and i gave him a dream feed when i went to bed at 10pmish and then he slept until 2am, had a feed and then slept until 5:30am! He was a bit gassy from 5:30am onwards (that seems to be his 'gassy' time) but all up i got 7 hours sleep! woooohooo! its amazing how a good sleep makes you feel so much better.
I'm off the dairy and already Ds seems not as gassy, i'm still using bruares when i need to (usually at the end of the day for some reason).
So today i feel more like me again and it doesn't feel like the world is coming to an end Since chatting on here i'm feeling a bit more relaxed. DS2 is still really hard to settle but i'm sort of going with it and if i have to carry him around to get him to sleep then so be it. I don't know why but i was thinking he HAD to fall asleep in his room so i was forever going in and resettling and getting frustrated instead of picking him up and just carrying him around.. i guess i thought that if i took him out of his room he'd wake up more with all the noise but it seems like he actually likes the noise.. which is good because DS1 is soooooooo loud!
So give yourselves a pat on the back ladies because after chatting on here i feel more relaxed (well as relaxed as a mum of a newborn and toddler can be lol) Hopefully we'll fall into a routine soon and things will get easier and more predictable

Trish- where can i hire or buy the Amby baby hammock from? How long can bubs stay in there? I'm using a basinette atm and then he'll be into a cot when he's around 3 months and too big for the bassinette but maybe a hammock would make life easier?? I'm willing to try anything atm
thanks