Hi MJE

I had been going to post almost exactly the same thing when I saw your thread!

Our bub is now 21 weeks and at about 17 weeks she started to be a really bad sleeper, which coincided with some sore gums. She firstly would wake a million times a night (it did feel like that anyway!) at the end of every sleep cycle and I'd have to reinsert her dummy. We were so desperate for sleep we tried to get rid of the dummy, thinking that was the problem, but things just got worse. Now she won't sleep during the day without a fight of an hour or more, even if we catch her before she gets too tired, won't go to sleep at night without the same and wakes every sleep cycle all night, needing booby.

No needles at 4 mths (we're from the UK so they were done at 12 weeks) so not that, but other than sore gums we decided probably needed more food. Giving her solids has helped her stay asleep for longer at night, but still waking 1 or 2 times for booby. We co-sleep part of the night if she gets up too often as I find standing around in her room when I'm exhausting just makes me annoyed with her even more and that doesn't help anyone.

Might be worth a try if you're not already co-sleeping, as at least you'll get some sleep...? Also, co-sleeping can help in other ways as you are more attuned to the baby and your sleep cycles will begin to match. Means you will start to wake slightly just as she is and can comfort her before she wakes fully. It def helped when she was really bad, as I could help her latch on then go back to sleep

Wish I could help with the daytime sleeps but that's where we are really struggling! Prob is, if they don't get proper sleep at the right times (ie not to close to bedtime!) during the day, then their sleep just goes to pot completely.

It's great to see that so many others have had or are having the exact same problem at the same time. I'd thought I was the only one and was convinced I was screwing everything up, but now I know it's not just me!

Will check in later MJE to see how you're doing and if you manage to conquer the day sleeps so I can try out your solutions - good luck!

PS - what is the 'wonder week'?