I hate all the people who think it's their prerogative to give parenting advice! Especially the ones who only have negative things to say. ILs are definitely the rod-for-your-backers and I had to work hard to convince DH that trying things my way was better for the baby and us at the beginning. Now I feel I won the war as he said to me yesterday after I took out a new doona cover, "you should start buying king size bedding as we'll need a king size bed soon so we can fit all the children in."

As for what do I tell people, I generally don't say anything at all. If someone asks my advice I tell them what I do and why, that it is better for everyone and there is a lot of research to back up the fact the gentle way is the way to go.