My Mum was pretty upset when we told her that this time she could not be here when this baby is due. We said we needed 2 weeks of family time and then visitors are welcome ONLY if they came to help & be enlisted doing things. No I was not going to leave a list of what needed doing, people only need to look around & see for themselves that the dishes need washing, clothes need hanging out and dinner needs to be cooked. So if people want to visit, pull those sleeves up & get to work. As far as friends we put a 2 week ban on visitors after Matilda was born & had a drop off box for meals .