I did tell my mum a few weeks back that I'd love her to visit after 2 weeks, when DH was back at work, so she could help. I did know at the time that she would just stress me out and not help at all, but at least it put her off for 2 weeks! She did go a bit quiet then, so I stressed how much more I would appreciate it when DH wasn't around... but she's ignored it.

I had a really scary dream that I put a notice on the front door with the baby's details (a photo, the name, gender, dob etc) and in big letters "Please do not disturb - Mother and Baby sleeping" and my mum kept ringing the doorbell, pushed past DH to get in when he opened the door to tell her where to go, and although I told her to go away and she wasn't welcome, she picked up my sleeping baby. I told her to put baby down or I'd call the police - she didn't and so I called the police to get her out my house.

I am considering not telling her the baby is here for as long as possible, but she's already informed me she's visiting for my birthday (the 21st of Feb) so I may not be able to keep it a secret for too long. Maybe we could just not answer the door ever? I also aren't telling her where we're having the baby so she can't visit, which is not mean, if she listened to me then she wouldn't try to visit!