We sing a song when it's time to pack toys away.... have you tried that? OR say "let's pick up these toys, and then we can....." and give her some sort of reward at the end of it, like a jump on the trampoline or something?

Pie's at that age, they are really switched on to what's going on and practising her independence!!

And I only give two options.... I say "ok you can wear this or this, you choose" LOL although atm, touch wood, DD has been pretty good and let's me pick what she's wearing most of the time!