Sounds like my house most days. I wish I could help but Im at a complete loss too. He doesnt want my attention. I try and try and try to engage him but he would rather destroy the place and scream at me.
He is slowly improving now, but it has been a long slog and I am the first to admit I have done a pretty rubbish job of keeping my cool most of the time.

Anyway, the point of all that is I understand, and can totally empathise with you. You are definately not alone
Hope it was a once off and tomorrow is a much nicer day.
This is exactly how it feels lately!