I can feel the frustration in your post Days like that are hard, when you just feel like you're going from one 'incident' to the next and dealing with 'bad' behaviour all day. First, I would have tried to break the cycle and get us all in a better mood. I take them to a big oval near us where they can run around crazy and get all their energy out and there's nothing there they can really hurt. Or put them on the trampoline and tell them to jump their sillies out, LOL. And half the time I make sure I do it too, to change my mood. Tickle them and have us all laughing and smiling. Then we all feel much better.

I try and remember that when one of my girls is having a problem and acting like that that it's because they need something. Maybe they are having problems dealing with an emotion, maybe they need more from me. You said you feel like it's attention seeking so just assume it's that, then I would make sure I was spending more quality time with her. When she does something wrong I would try first acknowledging how she's feeling but then saying that you won't let her do that, i.e. I can see you're feeling frustrated, you really wanted to play with x and I wouldn't let you, but I will not let you hit me, hitting hurts me. Instead of just a 'No', that is more specific, and by using 'I' and acknowledging how she's feeling you're maintaining that connection but still setting boundaries. Because what kids want is to feel connected to you, feel understood, and feel like you are in control and they are safe. I hope that makes sense. Just something you could try xx