I am not sure where to post this, because it is a complicated issue, but I love the advice on this Gentle Parenting forum, so I might start here (mods feel free to move).

DD is almost 13 months, and is a cosleeping boobie baby. This means I am (happily) feeding her on demand, which can be anywhere from 6 to 10 times in 24 hours.

The problem is, I STILL haven't got a period yet, nor can I see any signs of fertility. Its only an issue because...well...I really want to start TTC #2 asap. I have that yearning...you all know what I mean!

The general advice I have been given by my midwife and GP to increase fertility is to aim for longer stretches between feeds, which sounds ok in theory BUT. How do you practically do this with a cosleeping baby? I have no idea how often she feeds in the night, and tbh, even thinking about monitoring that just irks me. I tried and tried to change or alter DD's sleeping from about 4-9 months and it just ended up in tears from her and me. I FINALLY feel like I have this parenting bizzo in a great place, and I feel fantastic about her development and my level of rest, and its all due to letting go!

I am also wondering about the implications for our relationship (DD's and mine) if I start putting another child before her most immediate needs. That might sound strange, but to wean her, even night wean her means I am placing my desire over her needs...which seems kinda wrong to me .

DH is being typically diplomatic about it and says "whatever you want".

So...how do I reconcile these conflicting aims? Is there a truly gentle way of reducing breastfeeding overnight, and do you think its worth starting now? I mean, would it be better to wait until she's older?

Thanks for reading if you got this far. I feel so stuck.