Well, you never know, AF may just be around the corner!

I have co-slept and night bf all of my babies. With DD and DS1, AF returned when they were both 13 months old. I know all women are different, but my point is, I had not reduced the frequency of night feeds, AF just came back both times when my eldest 2 were 13 months. I don't know what is significant about that age, and I will be interested to see if AF returns when my DS2 is 13 months!

I only reduced night feeds with DD when I was pregnant with DS1. Similarly, I reduced night feeds with DS1 when preg with DS2. If you are happy with your bf relationship as it is, I would be reluctant to change it. As you said, you feel as though you are in a 'great place' with your parenting at the moment.

Another consideration - DD and DS1 both self-weaned while I was pregnant. My milk dried up both times, and I feel sad about this as I think they would have both bf for longer. I am not saying this will happen to you, but it wasn't even a consideration for me the first time. I just assumed that I would be able to bf my DD during my whole 2nd preg.

It is hard to resolve conflicting aims sometimes. You said you are feeling the urge to ttc again. Do you feel totally compelled to act on that urge now or do you feel that you could wait? Would you be disappointed if you reduced night feeds and Af didn't return immediately anyway?

When pregnant with DS2, I moved DS1 into his own bed (he was 2), to reduce the night feeds. My DH would put him to bed and comfort him in the night because if I did those things, he would want to bf. Many times I 'gave in' because I felt mean denying him a night bf. It was an emotional couple of months for me. He continued to bf during the day for another 4 months. This was the only way I could see to reduce the night feeds, as he was feeding while I was asleep when we co-slept.

Anyway, I know this is long, I hope some of it is useful....