I don't really have any advice, I just wanted to sympathise as I am in a similar situation to you at the moment - really keen to start TTC number 2, but cycles still apparently being suppressed by BF during the night, even though I hardly BF during the day any more.
I hope that your cycles return soon without you having to wean before you or your DD are ready.
I was bf'ing round the clock (even tandem feeding), had no af, no signs of ovulating etc..but then I got pregnant (very much unplanned!). So perhaps you are ovulating and you don't know it!
I'm sorry I have no advice but all I can suggest is go with ur heart and u will know what to do
Maybe see ur doctor is ur concerned maybe just a bloody test to see if u might be ovulating without AF
If ur not ready to give up that bf and co-sleeping time then maybe ur not ready but its totally a personal decision and I commend u for being able to bf its a wonderful thing (I was unable to due to my daughter being prem)
I hope u work it out and all the best I am sure u will have another bundle of joy as soon as ur ready
hi anna. i was still co-sleeping with ds1 and bfing all night long when i fell pg with ds2 so it can defintely happen without you changing anything. we sort of said we'd just 'see what happens' and i fell pg straight away. i went on to bf ds1 until i was 25wks pg with ds2 when he self-weaned and it was all very gentle with no tears or sadness- he just happily stopped- giving me a couple of months off before i started bfing ds2. i would say just keep doing what you're doing, you can do this without pushing your dd's needs to the side iykwim? we've given ds1 the best present in the world- a younger sibling who he absolutely loves.
Hi Anna,
I felt exactly the same way when DS was 12 months as that was when we were going to start trying. My plan was also to start night weaning. But i was thinking the same things as you, so I put it on hold for a while, and now DS is night weaned, it was easier than I thought. Just a protest on the first night, now all is fine.
So just do what feels right, because what didn't feel right for us only a few months ago feels ok now.
Hope that made sense.
Good luck with your decision
We gave up trying to change DD months ago and we're all much happier and rested for it.
We will be TTC around June but no AF here either. I don't want to force DD to cut feeds bc I want to have another baby, that feels so unfair And I'm also scared of her weaning when I get pg again when she may not have weaned at that time iykwim. Gosh, I don't have any answers for you do I? But I can sympathise, I'm having all the same thoughts and feelings.
Last edited by Heaven; February 21st, 2010 at 01:37 PM.
anna, we're in the same boat - almost. My AF has returned but I'm still wondering how fertile I am as its pretty irregular ( AF returned with us doing 6 plus bfs a day).
I can sympathise as the last thing I ever imagined considering doing was putting myself or anyone else before DS. We too are so happy right now with our sleeping and feeding. However I am 36 this year so I don't have time to mess around
We still bf on demand and all through the night too. I don't know how you can reduce the night time bfs without distress.. I think a better bet would be day time as you could distract her although if you feed to sleep its impossible! One thing we did was started walking DS to sleep in his ergo carrier in the mornings which has put a bigger gap between feeds there..
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And I'm also scared of her weaning when I get pg again when she may not have weaned at that time iykwim. Gosh, I don't have any answers for you do I? But I can sympathise, I'm having all the same thoughts and feelings.
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