Yes yes yes!!!. Especially when everyone around me seems to think that if only I smacked or if only I let my baby CIO then everything would be fine.

I get through it by thinking through what would change if I did these thing ... how would I feel? how would my kids feel? how would the behaviour change?

The conclusion I come to is that nothing would be all that different except that I would feel terrible and my kids would be affected too.

I don't think it is gentle parenting that causes difficulties, I think it is just the world of raising kids means that problems crop up sometimes and they can be frustrating. Changing things would probably mess with their sense of security and understanding of how the world works.

You are doing a good job. It is just really hard work at times