Hugs first and agreeance second... I would go through times when i thought '' im doing all this wrong, dd is screaming at me, im rocking her for hours and she is still awake'' and sometimes i would just put her down in the cot, still crying and think...the pro-CIOers must be right...I wouldnt get far before i took a deep breath and run back to my little baby. You just have to do what feels right and TRUST the way you have decided to do things.
SO..i BF DD to sleep now...but that isnt a failure, its a choice and she will learn to SS sometime...i wont still be BF her to sleep when she is 15...(i hope )
HUGE hugs to you. well done for the amazing job your doing!!