My parents were of the thought that if a baby has been fed, changed and is warm enough, then they can safely be left to cry (!) My father thinks that I "spoil" DD because I never leave her to cry and always seek to find out what is bothering her and why she is upset.

Re feeding - my mother was told (by drs and hps) not to feed babies at night and to feed to a strict 3 hour routine during the day, which she did with me and my sister, then decided to ignore and demand feed my brothers. She advised me to ignore any advice about routine feeds and to feed DD whenever she wants it, which is what I have been doing and it has been working really well.

Hope this helps. I will try and post more when I think of things.