I've just had a really terrrible night - DD slept pretty well though was up about 4 times. She woke at 12pm and instead of feeding her as usual my DH setttled her - this took about 40 mins but we decided we were going to persist this week with settling rather than just feeding. Anyway I was awake for all of this (I can't sleep when she's crying) and then couldn't get back to sleep. Finally fell asleep about 4.45am but then DD awoke at 5.30am and 6.30am - needless to say I am exhausted!!!

The reason I feel guilty is because my DH works very hard - he does 4 day shift work as well as his own business. He's a great hands-on dad but I feel guilty about letting him do the settling when I know how tired he is. He says not to worry and he's on hols this week so he can help out more during the night.

I feel though like it's a vicious circle because if I do get a couple of hours to myself to sleep or chill, I still feel bad that DH is then tired too. I know it doesn't sound rational but I am hardly rational at the moment! I know he will get home from a job this arvo and look after DD but the whoel time I'm "relaxing" I feel guily so i hardly relax at all. THIS IS NO WAY BECAUSE of anything my DH says or does - it's crazy me.

Just really needed to vent and maybe some sleep suggestions would be lovely. for me and DD!!!!