Hey Jordie,
Damn that mothers guilt...if its not feeling guilty coz you have fed your child canned food due to mid week exhaustion then its the "I must be an unfit mother and wife because I have been home all day and still not found time to clean up the dinner dishes from last night (Which DH said he would do anyway, but I feel like I should because he works all day)". I can totally relate to what your saying. My DH works really hard and does a great job at helping out where he can. We did end up coming to an agreement on getting up at night though. During the week I get up and on the weekend he will. We also agreed I would have one sleep in on the weekend and he will have the other day.

My DH just stuck his head in and said to tell you to relax. He probably enjoys the chance to help you on his holidays, when he may not be able to at other times. He can share the load and give you some relief. If he has the capacity and willingness to do it, let him do it.

With our first baby I really had to work hard at not feeling guilty about things and the second time around, its so much easier. Its all part of the learning to be parents together thing.

It definately sounds like your little one could be teething or something though. Also it can take a baby three days to establish a new routine. If your trying to cut out the middle of the night feed it may take her a few days to get over the habit of waking for it. Keep perservering with settling rather than feeding. Wrapping your baby or giving a late night 10:30-11pm rollover feed could help too.

Its only a season so hang in there.