okaaaay, where to start.
well, it seems after four and a half months, i have started to listen to my instincts a hell of a lot more, and am slowly doing what seems to work best for me and bubs, regardless of what others think and what is the 'norm'...

for the past few weeks we have been co-sleeping from about midnight til 7am which is working out great... poor DP is sleeping in another room, but at least we are all getting a great night's sleep most of the time...

my first question is, for those who co-sleep, how do you get your babies to sleep during the day? what methods do you use to get them to sleep, since you are not next to them in the bed, IYKWIM. Is there any crying/fussing involved? At the moment DD seems to whinge/cry for about 10 minutes before going to sleep, and there really isn't much I can do to avoid this, even if I cuddle her she still cries as she is trying to fight going to sleep.... am wondering if some babies semi 'need' to have a cry to wind down? Not sure what methods I can use to avoid the crying...? We follow a ritual before nap of lights off, curtains drawn, lullaby music playing, hop into sleeping bag, cuddle with mum, then into bed....

my second question is (and i apologise now as i realise this is going to end up a ridiculously long post), is there any pattern, regularity to your days? We don't seem to be in any routine (for want of a better word) whatsoever.... every day is different, sometimes in the mornings i can get her to take a 2 hour nap, others its only half an hour... I guess I am just wondering if anybody else has a really irregular baby? I hear babies love routine, and am wondering if it is 'okay' to have a different groove every day? I guess wake up time in the morning and bedtime are the only two fairly regular things, what goes on in the middle is anyones guess. Do you think some babies are just different each day? Would love to hear that there are other people out there the same!? Should I be trying to gently encourage some sort of predictability... I have been trying for 4.5 months now and have had no real success! Am thinking it is not worth the effort and if she wants to not sleep some days and laze around others, then just let her be...

okay am going to stop with my questions now as it is getting too long, thanks if there is anyone out there who stuck around to read this! xx