We have tried timeout with some success but it stopped working when she was out of nappies as she will just wee to get out of it or say wee's wee's so I let her use the potty.
I think it's all normal behaviour at her age and wouldn't use time out.
My dd loved sticker books at that age, and we would sit together while I fed ds and do the sticker books together. Look for the simple hinkler brand ones that teach your child to put colours in right spot etc.
I would also use a portacot for your ds so there is no opportunity for her to access ds unless you're there.
You need to break this recent cycle by removing ds to a safe spot and creating positive interaction with dd. I would also start randomly praising her for being such a kind gentle big sister to recreate the narrative in her mind too.
The most important thing is to calm yourself and stop your own cycle of yelling because it doesn't work and everyone is sad (but hey we all do it occasionally!). Play school is brilliant and my kiss watch it twice a day!
My ds is a bit younger than your dd but he can ready do puzzles in my iPhone or iPad, so maybe look at that too. Tozzle ones are great and could entertain her when you're feeding.
Then when you're ready for an outing make dd walk and run and jump etc so she gets rid of her energy. Loud music works well here too. I also love looking up Disney classic songs on you tube so I can enjoy my own childhood memories.
When dd does hurt ds, put her on the floor ( sit her down) and say no, please be gentle, and ask her to show you gentle hands by stroking your hand. When she does that, be positive and stand her up and move on. Repeat ad nauseum! My kids have moved through hitting phases quickly doing that.
As for biting, neither of mine are biters, but you could try the same technique but say, mouths are for kissing people. You could ask dd all the things she could bite, like apples etc and then say we don't bite people!
Last edited by Arcadia; December 21st, 2012 at 05:03 AM.
Yeah when she is being gentle I do praise her and sometimes when I see her going over to DS looking like she's about to hit/kick him I say oh ate you giving DS a kiss that's nice and she will then kiss him.
She is not usually a biter but I think she's getting her 2yrold molars as she is chewing everything. I'm thinking about getting one of those iPad kids covers as she already tries to chew on my iphone. I'm still breastfeeding them both and DS is a quick feeder so that time is usually not a problem I unless she wants to feed too!
that sounds like my daughter, we looked into her diet and found that several types of colours/preservatives would set her off. by eliminating (was a very lengthy process) she has slowed down and is calmer.
Maybe worth looking into that?
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