Hi Jandals, I really feel for you. I felt very similar to you when my baby was very little. I don't know if I can offer any very helpful advice only that it does get easier. My baby only ever slept on me in a sling, or in my arms. If I did manage to get him to sleep in the cot, it never lasted very long. My 2 year old really had some bad days. She didn't get the attention she was used to, played up ALOT, and I always felt like I was telling her off. The one thing I did was back off her discipline. I only corrected the really bad stuff, hitting etc and then I did it by doing a 'time in' where I took her to her bedroom and talked about why she was doing what she was doing. Like, "are you throwing things because you are angry mummy is feeding the baby". (This was started after months of hitting my head against a brick wall with her behaviour).

Now my baby is 8 months he only has two sleeps a day, one of which is normally on me. Luckly that happens to coincide with playschool so I hold him while my DD watches TV. Not the best solution, but it works for us. He has started crawling and the two of them interact alot more. She seems to really enjoy having him around most of the time now. If we ever go anywhere without him, she always asks where he is and why isn't he coming.

In the long run I don't think she suffered that much from not having my 100% attention. She mostly gets attention all day again now, only its half from me and half from her brother. We all do stuff together and honestly I think she is happier for it.

Goodluck with it all. I really hope it starts to get easier for you soon.