Yeah we cosleep the majority of the night. She goes into her cot (in our room) when she goes to sleep at the start of the night and then when she wakes I just bring her in with us and she stays there the rest of the night. Sometimes I think she wakes just to get in bed with us and then she's happy to snuggle up and sleep. However when we're trying night weaning she's been in her cot a lot more just coz we get up to resettle her and when she's asleep we just put her back in her cot. If we put her in bed next to me when she's asleep half the time she automatically rolls towards me and opens her mouth thinking she's going to get fed and then cries when she doesn't get it.
Maybe I should try just having her in our bed from the start tonight and see if that helps her to sleep longer while I'm night weaning bc sometimes in our bed she wakes up a little, rolls around, and then goes back to sleep by herself when she knows we're there. She NEVER does that in her cot. Of course it could go the other way and make her want to feed more, but I'll try. I have been wearing a top too so my boobs aren't tempting her all night, rofl.
She does feed to sleep at bed time and for her day nap(s) too. I will stop the feeding to sleep at night and see if it helps, thanks, I didn't think of that! I will just rock her to sleep. She doesn't self settle! Although sometimes if I feed her to just sleepy she will roll around and if I pat her she will go to sleep, depends on how tired she is and her mood. So I'll remember to do that instead of feeding to completely asleep.
I told DH about the idea of he does the first half of the night and then I feed and we get some sleep and he's happy to do that. Then we'll just stretch it out. Thank God for DH!
SS- I thought of getting her up last night bc I didn't know what else to do, she just wasn't sleeping!! But I was worried it might make it worse but I doubt it would unless I was doing it every night hey! I couldn't think clearly at 2am, LOL.
I'm also just going to give her 1 sleep a day instead of two. She either has 1 or 2. She is fine with 1 but I can always get her to have 2 if I want to and I tend to do that if we're home all day bc then I get more time to myself and I'm tired from the night before. So I'm going to get out more doing things and give her only 1 nap. She sleeps a little better only having had 1 nap.
It's just nice to hear from others they've done the same thing and it will hopefully get better. Coz even though I know I want to do it and it's reasonable to expect her not to feed for that amount of time at her age it's a bit upsetting in the middle of the night when she's so sad and upset and I know it's bc I'm doing it to her for my own selfish reasons and I could so easily fix it
I feel better now I have some more ideas and a bit of a better plan.
That's great your DH is supportive! Hope things work out.
I think mixing things up a bit is a good idea - helps you to figure out different strategies that work at different times.
Do you give your DD cow's milk? DD has cut her feeds right back, but when she does wake up at night looking for a drink (and she's not sick or teething) then I warm up some cows milk and give her a drink of that, a cuddle, a bit of a rock and she's back to land of nod in no time. Just something else to try if you need to you're doing great and your DD wont be feeding overnight for ever.
We went through this too. I agree- don't worry about the nights when it all goes pear shaped, just try again the next night.
Our son started in the cot then came into our bed too. I started just letting him have cuddles instead of milk and he wasn't happy at first. We offered water, cup of milk, banana and rice cakes in bed but no milk from mummy. Sometimes he cried so much I just cuddled him for a while but sometimes he took some water, milk or food. If he got really distressed then I fed him but then I would try not to feed him later in the evening. My plan was to cut down to one night feed (from 2-3 feeds) so I generally aimed for that to be after midnight. Then I fed him whenever he woke in the morning after 5am than again on real wake up at about 7am (but sometimes I was able to skip the 7am one and just get up with him). It only took a little while and he stopped asking for the midnight one and starting sleeping!!!! So I was just doing the 2 morning feeds till soon he dropped the 5am one too. At around the same time he dropped to one day sleep so I was only feeding him once in the day too.
Once I was down to four feeds a day (morning, day sleep, evening and once overnight) I got my period back and I fell pregnant while still BFing but then he weaned because he didn't like my milk anymore I guess.
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you're doing great and your DD wont be feeding overnight for ever. 
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