Sounds to me like you have a certified velcro baby! I have one of those, although she is not as bad as she was. I found tummy time helped a whole lot. She is a lot better now because she wants to explore and look around and play with things she shouldnt, but still refuses to be unable to get to me, even if she doesnt actually want me. We have a baby gate across the kitchen and all hell breaks loose if I am on the other side of it to her. Give her some opportunities to be on her tummy but with mum in sight.
Also to get her more used to spending time with daddy we would have squishy 3 people cuddles with her in both our arms. Or sit her on the lounge between us so there is contact with us both. Velcro bubs can be wonderful for your self esteem, but can take time to cut the invisible umbilical cord they are holding onto. Be patient with her and take it slow so she still feels safe even though she is not on your lap. All she wants is to feel safe with her mummy.
Have you got a carrier honey? I find when Eden is getting super clingy (usually from 4pm onwards until daddy is home) I have to put her in the carrier on my back, so I can still play with the other kids, do the housework, get dinner ready etc...
They go through these phases - it's really hard At that age it's likely to be separation anxiety too. I second the carrier idea.
Rather than trying to pry her off you (though I totally understand your need for space) you may find the phase passes sooner if you keep her close. That way she gets the reassurance she needs.
DS was like this at that age. And again from 18-22 months (or thereabouts).
Is she crawling or moving at all? You may find it gets better once she is, too.
Hang in there
Jordy was like this too. I remember how frustrating it was, but in the end I just had loverboy do anything that took 2 hands, particularly dinner things (I'm not organised enough to pre-prepare).
I could sometimes put his highchair at it's highest level and roll it over next to me so he could stay close, maybe put a ricecake or a bath toy on the table...
It didn't really change once he started walking. I mean, I didn't need to carry him as much, but he did need to be near me at all times. I just learned to walk slowly so he could keep up and not think I was trying to get away from him, or I'd say "come on, we're going in here now". Even now (he's 2 1/2) he will pretty much always be where I am, even if it's playing on the floor nearby while I cook dinner or playing in the empty bath with his toys while I take a shower.
I did insist on him sleeping in his bed, though.
Is there a reason you can't sit with her? That's no good for you and she may just have to get used to it. Some things are non negotiable for your own sanity's and/or health's sake.
I studied intro to psych last term and we were told that if you don't fight it and find ways to work around it instead it can lead to healthy attachment, if that helps.
Ohh will be watching with interest, was about to start a thread of my own on this... DD2 is 6mths and is VERY clingy, if someone else takes her (incl DP) she cries of screams, if i leave a room and she notices or sees me she screams.. MCHN said it's seperation anxiety but she has been like this for MONTHS.
She is fed to sleep at night, is FINALLY back to going to sleep on her own during the day or in the middle of the night but otherwise she is basically held or i am sitting with her or beside her during awake times.
Some of the things i have tried:
* Getting DD1 to interact with her more (although she does A LOT)
* Letting her cry (just a little) when i leave the room and getting DD1 to try and distract her - this hasn't been working though.
* She's sitting now and i have found she likes BOOKS so i sit her with a book and walk away.
* Put her in the holly jumper so she can see me
* Use my baby carrier when she's being a right PITA
* When she is happy i have told DP he needs to interact with her more rather than letting me deal with her while he deals with DD1, i want her to know he is 'safe' and although he doesn't have boobs he's just as good with her..
Will watch what others suggest, i need some ME TIME aswell before i rip all my hair out.
thanks ladies,
yes she is crawling, pulling up to stand at things too. has cut her first tooth last month too...
I have an ergo mel, havent tried her on the back yet........
thanks ladies, lots of ideas to try too
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At that age it's likely to be separation anxiety too. I second the carrier idea. 
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