Yikes about the train! Poor lil fella! I know people who think the best way to teach kids not to hurt is to do the same thing back to them; my friend and I have a mutual friend who would encourage her to pull her DSs' hair whenever he pulled my DDs! It didn't work though. Actually I think it must be confusing if adults keep doing things that they tell you not to! Do as I say not as I do sort of thing.