How has CIO affected you??

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Left to CIO as toddler, child and teen. Too many memories of crying - make that sobbing - myself to sleep knowing that no-one cared about that. Not at all close to my mother. Emotionally stunted to the point my sister reckons I'm autistic. Very angry person. Had troubles learning at school when this was happening as a teen - there was too much going on in my head to learn.

I did NOT turn out fine, anyone who knows me can see that! My mum doesn't even say "...and you turned out fine" to me.

Sister, co-slept even in her late teens if she "needed" it. VERY close to mum, emotionally secure, well loved, confident, has done well academically (better than I did).

eta - even with a nightmare as a child, I was told to go back to bed and not bother Mum. Talk it through with my Teddy bear then I'd feel better. Go back to bed. It didn't work, btw, well not for me but I did never bother mum again with nightmares.