I'm not as good at this as I would like to be....

[milly5]

Thanks ladies, I really appreciated your posts.

[milly5]

Thanks, I REALLY, REALLY appreciated your posts!!
Especially the "confessions" - there aren't enough of those on here!

I just felt so awful for getting so upset with both DDs.
This was my big trigger: I am so tired at the moment.
DD2 is going through a clingy thing at the moment - wants to only sleep with me.
DD1 is going through a jealous thing at the moment - wants to be cuddled by me, but only when DD2 is being BF or put down for a sleep, at other times she doesn't want a bar of me!
I just NEEDED DD2 to go to sleep, and she just WOULDN'T go, and just as I'd get DD2 settled, DD1 would throw a tantrum (mainly because I was with DD2) and wake her, so I had to go back and get DD2 settled, just to have DD1 do something to wake her up again, and then meanwhile throw another attention seeking tantrum because I was not spending enough time with her!!!
And I lost it. Big time. Nuff said.

[nothing2lose]

Yanno, there is a good reason the military and intelligence agencies use sleep deprivation as a method to break the will of enemy captives

Personally I think they should just put them in charge of a couple of infants/toddlers going through 'stages'.


What I get from your confession is that you are a human being just like the rest of us.

[Rowellen]

That is such a hard time, dealing with the jealousy especially at that age.

Confessions - I hide in the toilet with the door locked & the kids screaming at me just outside the door just for a moment of "hands off mumy" time.
DS gets blasted over something minor even though he is being mostly good, just because I can't cope with DD being a normal 2yo
ABC Kids is on TV A LOT in our house.
I've sworn at DD. Before DS was born, I never swore. Then I swore a little bit. Now I'm a regular potty mouth. I hate it.
I swear at DD when it's 3 am and she thinks it's play time.
I make DS share his toys with DD but insist he give hers back because she cries louder
I run away when the kids start fighting over who gets to cuddle mummy. I just don't want to cuddle whinging kids.
I have put DS in timeout for whinging & left him there for longer than 4 minutes, just because I need to.
I hate kids craft with a passion. So they get to do it about once a year, when I feel like I should. Then I remember why I hate it so much. Lucky they go to kindy.
My cakes are packet mixes. *runs & hides from the perfect mums out there that bake layered rainbow cakes (nothing wrong with that if you can do it lol!)

[Arimeh]

Hehe you should so come and check out my parenting - you would feel like a bloomin' rock star!

I'm not perfect and I don't ever pretend to be. Those who are my friend on Facebook know this and I don't want to ever be one of those mums who pretend to be coping when their not - what kind of bull**** pressure must that be to live up to?

I'm not an instinctual mother. I swear. Ffs is a common phrase in this house. As is "what the hell is wrong with you guys, you're all acting like psychos" because at that time they really are!

Being a mum is hard enough without worrying about if you are doing it well enough. I'm totally over the comparisons between mothering styles. Would a perfect mother parent my children differently than I do? Probably but who knows? 4 kids 6 and under is really hard, got my terrible two, my threenager, argumentative 4 and bratty 6 year old. My neighbours would hear me yelling, but that's OK cos I hear them yelling at their kids too.

I could list everything that I've done wrong today but my fingers would get sore because I'm on my phone. You are welcome to look me up on Facebook though if you'd feel better having a friend doing it worse than you

[Jellyfish]

I definitely make mistakes and get frustrated at times! Kids can be ridiculously frustrating and stubborn. Very stubborn.

But I certainly don't expect my kids to be perfect so I try not to expect myself to be. I'm also starting to realise my kids don't need me to be either. Just last week I was having a not so great afternoon and my eldest came over and said "never be sad mummy coz I love you even when you make mistakes". So if I make a mistake, I just acknowledge it, apologize if applicable and move forward, forever trying and learning. I think messing up can actually be a great opportunity to demonstrate to your child where to go from there.

At least half of the time I take my kids outside is because I know it will keep them distracted enough to let me sit and have a breather.