With my twins we did it all gentle parenting, controlled crying the lot! Ds1 was and still is a bad sleeper but we have given in and let him sleep with us ds2 learnt to self settle on his own and sleeps in his own bed most nights. Ds3 has being my dream baby and I didn't have to do a thing! He was rocked to sleep until around 9 months when he just refused and learnt to self settle. So I guess what I am saying is every baby is different so try not to stress and go with the flow!