congrats on your new arrival!

i think ultimately you have to be true to yourself & what you believe in. if you believe in gentle parenting & use other methods that you don't agree with/like as much, then i think you'll end up losing as much sleep, if not more! it seems that they all sleep however they're programmed to & there's not much you can do unless you really force the issue.

my DS isn't there yet but i've noticed gradual improvements as we've gone along & i'm so proud we've managed to even get this far whilst using methods we genuinely believe in. i know it's tough when you neeeed more sleep, but feel proud that you & your DH have struggled through the toughest part.

i hope your DS2 turns out to be an awesome sleeper!