Thank you all for your stories and support. I know deep down we're doing the right thing - for ourselves and for our children. My DH and I both have worked with abused and traumatised children so we know the importance of developing strong attachments and fostering positive relationships in the early years. I think I'm just overthinking things and need to remember (as you've all said) that each child is different no matter what we do. Gentle parenting doesn't make bad sleepers. And even if DS2 ends up being a 'bad' sleeper we've been through it with our DS1.

I'll try to just let it all go and enjoy these moments