Well, i swear. So part of my letting it go is that if it's good for the goose it's good for the gosling. I swore as a kid and was taught when it was appropriate and when not. Believe me, i was a socially astute child. The first time i swore when i shouldn't have i knew all about it and i felt HUMILIATED by my own misreading of the situation, and i was VERY careful after that. My DD hears me say "****" if i drop something, so she's only going to disrespect my obviously false claim that she shouldn't say it ever. But if my dad NEVER says it, and i'm perfectly happy for HIM to tell her off for it - she'll listen to him! I only preach what i can practice. I swear A LOT less than i used to, but i live in a city where "c234" is interchangeable with "him", as in "that c234 over there" when indicating to someone in a mild way (i.e. it is NOT meant as an insult at all) so she hears far worse from others every day in the street.

For me it is INCREDIBLY important that DD listens to me and respects what i say. For this reason i try to be true to my own word. I have a wide and varied vocabulary and swear words are part of it. Yes, it isn't ideal to have a child who says "f***" to elderly lollypop ladies, but i'm not too worried about what kind of kid she'll be, i'm only concerned with what kind of adult she'll be.

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