One father confessed to me that he regretted the attachment approach he and his wife had practiced with their daughter. At age four, she was "wild and demanding" while their friend's child, who "grew up in a crib" and attended day care, was "so cooperative".
Attachment parent here who uses day care. Nowt wrong wi' that. DS is 90% of the time an absolute angel but given that he's only just 2 we know it won't be for much longer - and I'm thrilled that he trusts us enough to test boundaries and spread his wings. But then I let him get muddy because I think he learns and I know he enjoys it.

Interesting about leading by following. DS every now and then goes through a month or so of needing to be coaxed to have a bath. DH thinks we should just pick him up and force him into it (usually right at the end of this mini-rebellion)... I play a hide-and-seek game then play with the bath duckies until DS wants to join in with the bath. He's back to loving baths again and wanting to bath and bed at 7pm. But even though he has 10 minutes tearing around the house and giggling, he still knows it's bathtime and he's having a bath. There are rules, we stick to them - but we have fun too!

DS is fashion boy - the amount of comments I have that he looks like a model! He insists on picking his own outfits (I buy the clothes so the outfits all look great) and now is picking what he wants in the shops: some shirts are pointed out and wanted, others I will show him and receive a decided "no." Same with shoes - the ruddy designer pair DS nodded and stuck his feet out to try them on, the other pairs "no" and hide the foot. So now my 2-year-old wears lace-up kickers. Please don't let his feet grow for another six months or more! But the tantrums that ensue if we tell him what to wear... DS strips himself off again rather than wear the owl top when he wanted a rugby top.