ahhhh, for me- we've just stopped telling people about our sleeping arrangement, as people think we're weirdos. currently ds and i sleep in our bed together, while dp sleeps in the spare room. this arrangement suits all of us. i'm happy, ds is happy and dp is happy. ds gets to breastfeed whenever he wants. i get to stay nice and warm and not have to get up and dp gets a full night's sleep everynight so he's fresh for work. it's not forever, but it works right now. i wish i could tell people what i really think when they turn up their nose at our situation. i wish i didn't have to justify myself......but instead i usually just lie about it.
might try the 'when your opinion matters, i'll let you know'....