thread: Unsolicited advice and criticism - what you want to say or have said

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  1. #1
    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
    Funky Town, Vic
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    Are you still breastfeeding??? !) Yes, its because I'm lazy. 2) Yes, aren't you? 3) Why wouldn't I be?

    They sleep in your bed? 1) Yes, I love it, kids are so toasty and warm 2) Yes, I can't be bothered getting up when its cold, I'm lazy.

    I like to look very puzzled when people ask me these questions and I like to ask the questions back at them so they are the ones explaining why they need to question me. Usually not much of a response though, stuff along the lines of 'oh well you dont see that often' (or some such crap). Then I usually say 'well you musnt know many people then! Everyone I know *insert issue here* does too....

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Nov 2005
    Where the heart is
    4,360

    Can always count on you, Lulu, to provide some kick-@rse ideas!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jun 2007
    Dandenong Ranges, Melbourne.
    5,673

    i know, i really shouldn't be lying about it.
    people are constantly asking me about breastfeeding ds now that i'm pg again, as though i'm hurting the unborn baby or something by breastfeeding him- or like it's weird to see a pg woman breastfeeding.
    i like your suggestion lulu of children being toasty- my ds is so toasty and smells so fresh in the morning, i lovewaking up with him. much nicer than smelly old dp

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Nov 2005
    Where the heart is
    4,360

    Rainforest, you can lie about it if you're uncomfortable about the attention! There'll always be someone like me to take up the slack I've been hanging around booby feeders too long - I cannot understand any non-positive attitude to BFing whilst pg, or tandem feeding!

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    Somewhere here and there.....
    483

    A friend of mine practices attachment parenting and told us a story the other week about her response to a nosy inquiry into her parenting choices. Not sure what the initiating question was but she responded with a polite "Oh thank you, let me know when your book comes out so you can tell people you at least sold one copy". Had us all giggling.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jun 2007
    ...not far enough away :)
    1,413

    I heard a great one the other day "why don't you look in your own backyard before you look over the fence"....ha,ha loved it.

    As for the hair cut - the other day it was "oh Erin, get the poor childs hair cut"that's the third time it was topic of conversation at playgroup...far out. I like his wild, ferral blonde mop LOL.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Oct 2004
    Sydney
    2,614

    Are you still breastfeeding?? Umm yeah..why wouldnt I be? (with a look on my face as if to say it was the most absurd question anyone had ever asked me.)

    Same goes for using cloth nappies, not control crying and so on.

    To the ones who push it further, I just pull some intereeting information out of my bum, like the WHO recommends to breastfeed till 2 years old... or some other such little tidbit of information. After that I usually fet some stupid response usually not anything more than an "oh .. ok" and a quick subject change.

  8. #8
    Moderator

    Oct 2004
    In my Zombie proof fortress.
    6,449

    When an old high school friend was over visiting, she and her cousin were really at me with the sleep questions "how often does she wake, what time etc" I just smiled and said "Look, I don't know and I don't have a problem. I cosleep, so it is no effort for me to feed her. I don't worry about sleep when they are young".

    If I am questioned about co-sleeping I just tend to comment that I am too lazy to get up for feeds. If they don't know I co-sleep and ask how many times I get up in the night, I just say "Oh, I don't get up", generally they looked shocked and think I just leave bubs to cry. Then I continue "I don't need to get up, we co-sleep, I just roll over "

    I did get nasty once, I had a GP (not my normal one) refused to give me a referral for depression. She believed I should control cry, as she did with her son and he is fine, that should solve my depression. Well I let loose "I believe it is a form of child abuse and I will not abuse my child!"