I'm sorry, but who are these people that their opinion is so all-fired important?? Tell them to go jump.

Parenting is one of those things where everyone has an opinion, and many are quick to judge - but really, the only opinions that matter are yours, your boys' and maybe your Dr if you've found a good one. Screw everyone else, you don't need that kind of guilt! Their experiences aren't yours, your experiences aren't theirs. Choose a few supportive friends to talk to and ignore all the other nosey gits.

If all those parenting programmes and stuff is making you feel like this, I'd be totally giving most of them the flick and only keeping those that have good practical advice and are supportive. Trust your instincts hun, they will see you through a lot better than any "expert"