Wait for him to turn 3
Seemed to work for my DS. Not sure if it was a coincidence but I also introduced cuddles as a distraction. Whenever he got upset I would say "do you want a cuddle". Almost every time he would calm down & do what it was I was asking quite happily. Now he sometimes asks for a cuddle before I even offer! For my DS, I think the behaviour stems from a desire to do things for himself or have control over the situation. Often he would have a meltdown if I put the toast in the toaster or something so simple like that. It was so hard to work out what it was he wanted. I try to involve him in everything now. I sometimes don't anticipate him though which leads to meltdown but it's improving. When he's ignoring me, I think it is to exercise control. That's when I tend to yell. It is so hard to keep being patient some days, particularly when he is doing it constantly. No TV helps. Idon't mean as a punishment, but just not turning it on at all. I found his behaviour is a lot better on the mornings I don't turn the TV on. I also stop for a minute if I find myself yelling. By making a conscious decision to change my behaviour, I have changed his without really trying ITMS. Anyway, that's my experience. HTH.
BTW - who cares what your neighbours think. You are a frustrated mummy doing your best.
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