The usual daily grind

Pre kids DH used to go all out, sending flowers to me at work, fancy dinners, etc. One year we went to a fancy restaurant and it all just seemed so fake and set up, everyone there for the exact same reason, eating the same thing.

Since we've had kids, I told him no presents so the last couple of years he has cooked me dinner which is spesh for me as I get a night off cooking and he really puts the effort in and looks for a new recipe to learn. I'd prefer him to make a big deal on my birthday