Inheritance - Entitlement or a bonus?

[Jennifer13]

I don't expect anything from my parents, but I will be making sure my sisters and I do get something from my father (who we have no relationship with due to his serious abuse of us). He has no other children. I very much doubt his mother (still alive) will leave him much/anything, but don't expect to receive an inheritance from her. We may, because I do believe she will probably feel she wants to. That's a bonus if it eventuates. I'd rather she lived to 100 and got to see DD (her great-granddaughter) grow up.

My Mum probably won't have much and I'd rather she spent it all on herself. DP and I are living a better lifestyle than her and I would feel very guilty if she left me anything. She should be making her own life better.

DP's mother likes to brag about how much she's going to leave him, but then peppers every meltdown with how she's cutting him out of her will. DP sees it now as his right, but only because she's such a PITA and has made this a big issue. Also DP's father, who likes to tell him all the time what he's leaving his sons. I don't think DP would consider it anything but a bonus except that his parents won't shut up about it... With what we've had to put up with from MIL I don't think any inheritance would compensate the pain and suffering!

DP and I believe in making our own way, but our reaction to our parents discussion of this is down to their issues, not ours.