I'm torn. Yes, it's a bonus, not to be an expectation. I would rather my parents enjoyed their money while they were alive. Having said that... if anyone was going to inherit from my parents, say, I'd expect me and my sister to get most of it. We're the children. I would be hurt if one particular person who isn't my sister received as much as I did (or more, knowing Mum).

With inheritance, it's not up to the inheritees to decide who gets what, if anything. But the inheritor should give to children over extended family or friends, except in exceptional circumstances, such as estrangement. Children don't even need to be kept the same... but if you're giving, say, 100 grand to your brother then your children need to get more than that each.

Just cos I can see that happening with me and it isn't an expectation that I get something from a death, but it is an expectation that I don't inherit a mortgage and no house to go with it.