HELP! What option would you choose??

[Tegam]

I just thought that i would see the OB until after the 20week scan to rule out most things, then move to GP and the hospital visits for the ante natal stuff. Its the 4th time i have done this so i dont feel that i need my hand held that much. I know i dont need the GCTest as i passed it the first two times. So its really just the BP, isnt it. Then the hospital will feel for bubs and i am feeling movement so there isnt a lot left for ante care??

Ill look more into the post natal stuff andill contact more MW if mine isnt cool. She is really lovely so there is hope. The problem is there arent a lot of MW around..

[onthefly]

Yeah, I guess you want to keep an eye on BP, which your GP can do, maybe also fundal height, just in case of to much fluid or something like taht. You might also want to keep any eye on baby's position, but that's something you can probably figure out yourself. I guess monitoring movements on your own would suffice without doing HB checks on the bubs (I suppose you could get your hands on a stethoscope and listen...?).
Not sure if there's anything else...? Probably best to ask someone with some professional knowledge on these things.

[Antheia]

We're in the exact same position. Midwives didn't make the last homebirth and probably won't make it again because they are 3hrs away and DS came in 2 hours.

But i still paid the $5500 to have them this time. It's not just about the birth itself. It's the antenatal and postnatal care that i care about most. Yep it's expensive. But in my mind, worth it. Because i would rather have them miss it then to give birth in a hospital again or to have a complete free birth. It's not worth the risk for me.

[meow]

But i still paid the $5500 to have them this time. It's not just about the birth itself. It's the antenatal and postnatal care that i care about most. Yep it's expensive. But in my mind, worth it. Because i would rather have them miss it then to give birth in a hospital again or to have a complete free birth. It's not worth the risk for me.

I think I would lean this way too. I'd be wondering about if this labour ends up being longer what would I do? I would personally want a midwife booked to come as a hospital birth and a freebirth are not really what I personally want.

That said- both are valid options and I think if you would be happy to go with them then do. Perhaps try to visualise a scenario such as long labour and how would you want it to pan out? Would you be happy to transfer to your hospital? Would you prefer the quiet of a freebirth? Its really such a personal decision.

I veto the ob's option though too

[Tegam]

Well if i add all my labours together it only equals 8hrs for all three

I really cant get my head around a long labour....

But if you make me then yes i guess id like the MW to come rather than hospital!

Ahhh you are all lovely and bar making me feel better about notgoing to OB option you really are no help

[femme]

The gold standard really is the whole package not just the birth. Antenatal care could focus on being prepared that another free birth is on the cards but if you need support it is there also. The induction option very unappealing. I am not sure why you would want a hodge podge of care with so many different carers, decide what you want to do and go with that.