Homebirth General Discussion #10

[Jennifer13]

I balance how I say things where I think it might come across better by including or mentioning my DD1's scheduled c/s, which was on my ob's advice. It also reminds me how far I've come and therefore how much becoming a parent might alter others' viewpoints, even years down the track (it took about four years for me to think of homebirth second time around).

I was talking about bfing with my sister the other day and I said I thought it was especially important for babies like my DD1 and her DD who were born by c/s and missed out on the healthy bacteria in the birth canal.

If you are presenting a gentle, natural approach to birth and parenting, I think it's best done in a gentle manner. People who avoid it or don't want to know about my experience usually have their own hangups and I can't help but feel sorry for them.

[meow]

If you are presenting a gentle, natural approach to birth and parenting, I think it's best done in a gentle manner. People who avoid it or don't want to know about my experience usually have their own hangups and I can't help but feel sorry for them.

I agree. In the conversation with my friend I said that the best place for a woman to give birth is where she wants to be, because her feeling secure & supported is the most important thing.

[HotI]

i had an interesting conversation recently with DH and another couple that showed how much he has been changed by our experiences. our friends are pregnant with their first bub and were saying they had a heap of appts and tests already and a heap coming up. dh was awesome, he showed empathy and talked about all the appts and tests offered (mainly with DDs pregnancy), and then said (with a sense of admiration) 'after awhile hoti just started saying no'. it was such a great way of raising the possibility that you don't have to accept all that they offer, and it was great to hear it said with admiration rather than being seen as a troublemaker. i have always felt my decisions were supported by DH, but the way he spoke was that now he believes that my decisions have been the right ones AND he is happy to encourage others to question and find the right way for them.

I don't think i have described it very well, but it sort of fits into whether to talk up or not, and i probably wouldn't have in that context, but DH did and i think the way he did it opened up the opportunity for further discussion if and when the other couple are ready or face issues with their care.