Homebirth General Discussion #10

[Tanya]

Well would you like some sort of blessing way?

Your back sounds really sore! Guess it goes to show the pain you were trying to elevate initially

Surely I am not having a baby soon.... Nope...

[BellyBelly]

What did you have in mind Tanya? Something online? Yeah the back pain has been crippling, I have cut back hot water bottles and having as many treatments as I can but its such temporary relief. Not sure if I posted it before and cant see on my iphone but my ribcage is twisted to the right (feels like it too) and my right shoulder is messed up trying to compensate. They all tell me the best way to end the pain is to have the baby lol. Helpful people.

You never know Tan you might end up beating me lol. My labours just begin out of nothing normally and I just know that its all on. Can be a slow build up but dont normally have any doubt its labour, after everything being normal.

[Tanya]

Umm, not sure, Kell. Was thinking people could post things to you... Birth flags, beads, affirmations or art. And you could have a gathering of women who can make it to you and you can put together the flags, and necklace as well as reading out the affirmations etc.... *shrugs*

[Ilithyia]

Hi all,

Still here pottering along. 12 weeks tomorrow!! It's come around so quick!!

HotI - you can add me to the list if you like hun. We're due Feb

I haven't really told many people were home birthing yet. A lot of my friends already know I will as they know I plan to go independent once I eventually finish my degree. Plus we also planned a HB for Reid.

I'm not going to mention the possibility of a free birth as I don't expect much support from people.

Not long to go now Kel & Tan!! Exciting times ahead

Hi everyone else
xx

[Jennifer13]

How's this - I was chatting to the school crossing supervisor and she birthed all of her four babies at home in the 80s and 90s. First two with Maggie Lecky-Thompson. Gotta love random opportunities to talk about HB!

[BellyBelly]

Lol thats awesome Jen!! You've been so lucky like that

What happened with chocorama? Still pregnant? Hehe.

Just finished osteo, business call in 10 mins then might start setting up the bedroom so we're all good to go. Pool hasnt made an appearance yet, hope it arrives today!

[Tegam]

Hey Tan maybe if you ignore it, it will go away..... LOL

BB: a virtual blessing way sounds lovely.

Jen: always love random positive Hb stories

[Cassius2]

Sara: wahoo on the 12 week mark!! Have you been getting any morning sickness?

Jenn: i had a similar moment when we visited one of DHs old uni profs and he told us that he and his siblings were all born at home

Kelly: that sounds like some serious nesting happening...weeeeeeeeeee!!!

AFM: chugging along nicely now. I saw our awesome homeopath 2 days ago (can you believe that they run them here through mainstream medical systems?? she is a specialist in gynaecology, reproduction, pregnancy, birth etc so is in the maternity section of the public hossy). Anyway, so now have a little post natal kit and some things to take to help with the BH and exhaustion etc.

[BellyBelly]

Pool arrived today! Phew. Almost feel ready and relaxed.

[HotI]

Yay! Kelly. I was ready once my pool arrived. That's all i really wanted, pool, dh and midwife.

[BellyBelly]

Same! I didnt feel right until tonight, would have been so disappointed if I went into labour without it. Its blown up and against the wall. Much bigger than I expected but even better Will do a trial run and soak in the bath tomorrow or Sun

[Ilithyia]

Yay Kelly!!! How exciting!!

Cass - Yeah I've had my share of MS Needed IV fluids once which is a big difference to last time. I'm happy to say its seems to be settling now (touch wood). I just seem to be battling the nausea more than anything. I have a box of Ondanzatron which I've been take half tabs of when I feel I need too.

Well looks like I've got myself a birth photographer... For free!!!! I messaged one photographer cause she does great work but she hasn't done any births before so recommended another woman who also hasnt done a birth but offered to do it for free I just have to pay for travel!! So I'm feeling pretty good about that.

Im not having much luck finding a midwife to support me for the birth though. I've sent 5 emails to midwives in the area and only had a response from 1 so far saying no. So I guess I'll just keep pottering along and hope someone else replies.

I'd really rather have a Midwife there, mostly for DP's sake, but if we can't get one then so be it I guess.

Hi everyone else!
xx

[Jennifer13]

Mrsbaj, I haven't seen BOBB, but I'd recommend the Face of Birth, since it essentially deals with HB and the maternity situation in Australia. The BOBB to me seems more like it points to a system we could head towards if we are not careful, but thankfully our maternity system does not yet do it quite so badly. FOB was quite emotive for me too, because it dealt with women and their individual stories.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with watching both! I'm trying to remember to get online to watch the BOBB on YouTube, apparently the full version is now available.

Aimz - there are many wise women in here. Some of us just happen to pick up on what they say and come along for the ride.

[BellyBelly]

Sara, thats awesome! You must be stoked! Mine hasnt done a homebirth before so hope it goes well, but she's lovely. Have worded her up on the differences to hospital, less interference, interruption, more dimmed lights and less chatter.

Have my 38 week visit today, we're going to go over the birth plan and roles and responsibilities for support people which I think is important - both my partner and his mum (kids support person) only know of homebirth because of me and I want to make sure there is calm in the room and everyone feels okay with their roles, not asking what to do every five minutes or breaking out in all these conversations with everyone else!

Back is feeling a bit better (ribs are feeling very burnt though) but I have been resting at every chance I can, which means having to lie down in some way. Giving myself permission to rest has been a huge thing - I keep telling myself to loosen up, i'm 38 weeks for goodness sakes! If I dont rest now... It'll be a while! Im still getting really lightheaded, breathless and heart racing after showers or other simple activities, thought it would have eased off by now? Apart from that, emotionally I am in a much better place, finally feeling ready to meet this bub and my partner and I are feeling really connected too, just as I hoped The countdown is on!

[BellyBelly]

Sara: About the emails - loads of people find poor response times from IMs - if they get a response at all, myself included. You're really better off to call. X

[Ilithyia]

Yeah I'm pretty happy with it. I also messaged a friend who specializes in maternity and birth photography but she wants $300 which in itself is pretty cheap however it's not free. So I'm not sure what to do yet.

As for the Midwife, I've had 2 responses from the 3 so far and both have said no. Too far to travel and they both said they like to have 2 midwives at the birth. To me that's a reflection on their practice and I don't think I'd gel with them anyways. Plus I can't imagine how much they'd be charging.

So I'm waiting on one more reply from Jane Crawford. I may have to call like you said.

I had a visit to ED yesterday on referral from my GP. I was wondering if maybe I had a slow leak in my membranes as for the last 2 weeks I've had continuous watery loss. Id been umming and ahhing about going so bit the bullet yesterday and my GP sent me straight up to ED. They did all the usual stuff and did an amniotic swab test and it came back negative. I have to go for a scan tomorrow to check fluid levels.

So that's me at the moment. Feeling this little babe wriggle around a lot now.

Glad your feeling better Kelly. It's time to just chill and await for your baby to make an appearance

Hi everyone else. Hope you're all well!
xx

[Jennifer13]

Kelly, sounds like you're all set. I'm thinking maybe even a July bub there.

Sara, hope you have better luck finding an IM. It sucks that you don't just have the choice like women have in other countries to have public midwife support at home.

I'm excitedly waiting to become an auntie again very soon I hope! My sister's EDD was last weekend but my guess was today or tomorrow after talking to her last week. She should do well.

[Aimz]

Hi everyone! Joining this thread, probably a little early, but I'm so excited! Planning to birth my first baby at home in march 2013

I am a birth photographer, and have attended so many different kinds of births, and now know what I want and what I don't want.

Ive found an amazing IM and looking forward to getting to know you all

Amy x