the scan went awesomely!!! we have another beautiful baby girl baking away!! the scan place was awful...right smack-bang in a filthy, dark hospital as part of the maternity section. there was no colour or even pretence of trying to make the place look 'homely' like they do in aus maternity hospitals. and the poor women were 6 to a room with all the doors open so you were totally on show and babies are taken to nursery as the norm and THEN they call your NUMBER (you are alloted a group number!!) and off you all trot in your wee group to go and see and feed your baby i kid you not! i was ready to run out due to the horror. thankfully my calmbirth training has been useful beyond the birth and i was able to visualise myself outta that place lol. and the sonographer was a real number i tell ya, actually TOTALLY apologised with sincerity to MY DH that we were unfortunately (his words!) having another girl! it is the first time i wanted to punch someone really hard. how dare he. so so happy that i am staying at home for this baby and have a wonderful beautiful team behind me and my family.
Wow that is just horrid I'm sorry you had to face that. At least it's got to make the cost of Hb feel worth it!
So is the baby never with the mum in the room?
Cassius:congrats on another girl! Can't believe he said that! And wow at women being called out by number to see their babies!!!
Oopsy a bit tired as I write this I keep fallIng asleep! And dd has currently taken position across my pillow, why do they like to sleep the opposite way the bed goes?!
I'm so excited about your little girl Cassius! I'm one of three sisters and it's the best
The scan sounds like an eye opening experience The sonographer is a tool! And the maternity ward sounds ghastly. How awful for those babies & their mothers. I'm glad you'll be having your little one in your lovely home with maximum love & cuddles.
My little one spent ages sleeping in the H position too! He still does it on a bad night.
Congrats on a little woman Cassius!! I've got a feeling there's another pink bundle growing inside me as well.
Where abouts are you located?
Wherever it is, it sounds shocking!! It reminds me of some of the footage i saw on the Guerilla Midwife film about the Maternity system in Indonesia.
If women can't afford to pay their hospital bills, they aren't allowed to take their babies home. The babies are left in the nursery without any care and the mums are only allowed in twice a day to care for and feed the babies. The women are camping outside the hospital waiting for the allotted times. Totally devastating stuff.
Congrats on the new little girl on the way Cassius! We love girls at our house too - the more the merrier. I've also got 4 sisters. People say strange things though - when DD5 was born, one of the neighbours came over to congratulate us, and said "Oh, another girl. That's too bad. I was hoping you'd have a boy..." Ummm... thanks. Go home now, OK?
Nawww on your little girl Cassius, I was totaly floored to find out this bellybabe was a boy.. was totaly expecting girl no3.
Gosh Cricket, some people are idiots hey!
Wriggler is laying tranverse at the moment, back up, having marvelous fun kicking and tickling my cervix..
I have sooo much to get done.. I'm sooo sick poor me poor me
thanks for the congratulations guys and words of support. I was so shocked by that place that it didnt fully hit me until that night how awful that place was. there was so much more that was wrong with it, words cannot describe. I was up alot overnight with all the nervous energy needing to be dispelled!
We are so incredibly stoked seeing our new bundle, she is looking great and smack on for dates, I do find myself fortunate that we seriously do not have to deal with gender disappointment; i can only imagine how hard that would be. The tool's (thanks Meow for the verb/noun lol) comments have now just made me furious, we live in a world where the lives of girl babies are systematically not valued as highly as that of boy babies in many cultures and to have someone say that is just plain wrong. i guess the fact that i am working in human trafficking prevention stuff it hits closer to home in that i can place faces and names to girls' whose lives were not valued.
Cricket: sheesh! what a comment!
Ambersky: argh, no fun being sick! and how weird are those kicks on the cervix DD2 always tickled my ribs and it was the most weirdest feeling hahaha.
Sara: oh i heard about that system. so messed up.
BUT congrats on making the booking. i was booked into two birth centres with DD2 and pulled out once my plans with the HB were finalised and set in motion.
Congrats on your little girl, C I have suffered severe sex (not using the word gender in relation to this anymore) dissapoinment, and it isn't nice, and it is made so much worse by idiots who say insensitive crap like your sonographer did.
I am sure I had more to say but have placenta dementia! Will be back if/when I remember.
I have felt gender disappointment too. Can I just say, it's not about not valuing boys and being disappointed in their gender, but rather that I've felt disappointed at not experiencing girls. It's more about gender yearning, than disappointment.
I always knew I would have two boys. I knew both boys were boys while I was pregnant and when I picture my 3rd possible child, I know he's a boy too. So I'm kind of resolved now I love them to bits, it's not about them. It's about something else I'll never have. I'm so glad for you Cassius that you don't feel those yearnings and sense of loss because it's hard sometimes.
That said, I like siblings all of one sex too. There's something very special about it. There's always a win whichever way the gender dice rolls
When I had only girls, I was totally fine with that. When we were told that DS was a boy, that was pretty exciting, but we would have been perfectly happy with a girl too. I sort of hoped that DD5 was a boy, just for DS's sake. I thought it would be nice for him to have a brother close to him. But, we were not disappointed to learn that DD was a girl. Surprised, maybe. I really thought I was having another boy up until that point! Mostly though, I don't want people to be "disappointed for us" if you know what I mean. I want them to say "Another girl - what a blessing! Isn't she lovely." Not "Another girl... well... you sure have a lot of girls... too bad it wasn't a boy...."
Definately felt that most people were sorry for us that dd3 was a girl. Like you cricket I wanted a boy for ds but I wanted a girl for me. If she was/is my last then I always imagined I'd have a girl. It was/is perfect for us. Ds knows no better.....yet lol
Mean while no matter what sex my children are they are not letting me sleep at the moment is there a third sex that sleeps maybe, I want one of those
But a 'friend' on Facebook mentioned how hard it was teaching her baby to 'self settle'. Things could never be that bad!!!!
When I lift the babe up out of me and we look between it's legs. It's always a girl.
The biggest thing is a feeling of disappointment in the dream. Especially coming from my partner who, in the dream, loudly groans at the sight of a girl.
I wonder if its all this talk that's producing these dreams.
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and babies are taken to nursery as the norm and THEN they call your NUMBER (you are alloted a group number!!) and off you all trot in your wee group to go and see and feed your baby
i kid you not! i was ready to run out due to the horror. thankfully my calmbirth training has been useful beyond the birth and i was able to visualise myself outta that place lol. and the sonographer was a real number i tell ya, actually TOTALLY apologised with sincerity to MY DH that we were unfortunately (his words!) having another girl! it is the first time i wanted to punch someone really hard. how dare he. so so happy that i am staying at home for this baby and have a wonderful beautiful team behind me and my family.
The sonographer is a tool! And the maternity ward sounds ghastly. How awful for those babies & their mothers. I'm glad you'll be having your little one in your lovely home with maximum love & cuddles.
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