" And when you're in a slump, you're not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done. You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted, but mostly they're darked. A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin! Do you dare to stay out, do you dare to go in? How much can you lose how much can you win And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...or right and three-quarters? Or maybe, not quite? Or go around back and sneak in from behind? Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find, for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind."
I have the strongest faith you will get there HotI, wherever 'there' is. xx
not even sure! probably tired, uncomfortable, not looking forward to months more of this. kids keep getting sick which doesn't help. dd weaned a couple months back, and i think ds has now. cue feeling guilty cos he would still be feeding (and maybe not as sick??) if i wasn't pg. i don't get much time to myself so i think i am just missing out my recharge time. i am not feeling this bub move yet, so it's like i can only see the bad stuff atm, and the good stuff is too far off, too remote. and then i wonder if something is wrong, and this will all be for nothing.
i'm all right, just not really happy or energised, and getting cranky at little things.
SL, we have a HB group get-together IRL with our midwives group (had one today actually). It includes all women (and the odd partner who's male) who are using their services. The majority are homebirthing, but there are plenty who've had to transfer, had twins (which means hospital birth under our m/w group, with IM support) and I think one breech (same thing). They're all welcome, regardless of where the birth took place. Bella is right, HBing is a philosophy, not a place.
So get your birth warrior on and rock this birth! I for one can't wait to hear how it goes.
Hot1, I'm guessing it doesn't help being mucked around with your u/s too. I was so stressed in the lead up to the u/s (mine was at 18 wks 6 days, but bub is measuring a bit behind), I think if I'd been put off I'd have turned into a nervous wreck. For my discernible reason... I hadn't even gotten my referral organised, but they were happy for me to get it later and fax it over to them. Otherwise, it's a tough point in the pg, nothing really to 'do' and still living with the whole realisation that there'll be a nb and juggling to be done not too far in the future. At least, that's how it has been for me. I feel a bit better now, I'm so close to the third tri and I feel like it'll pass quickly.
And you never know, DS might come back to bfing after bub is here. I am conflicted, I don't want DD2 to wean, because of the immunity thing and preschool as soon as the new bub is here, but oh dear, I truly dislike bfing while pg... I totally get why you'd feel guilty about it.
Now to get my sister to send. me. back. my. birth. books. Dammit!
i have been playing the 'face of birth' dvds and BOBB in the car (sound only while i'm driving) and i find inspiration in them. not really focussed enough for reading but video /audio is good.
Sorry, I've let this speedy thread get away from me...
eenee- You're not crazy in the slightest. This is happening to you because of the way the hormones disrupt your system. I hope you get the right help you need soon. I'm so glad you have such wonderful support from your MW and in the mean time please check in with us every day. Just keeping one foot in the front of the other is a huge achievement at the moment. Be proud of yourself for that. You will see the other side of this
Sunny love- You can't leave! You're a HB mama now. Once you're on that path you don't leave it. There's a reason I prefer HB with transfer birth stories over the unplanned HB stories... it's not about the location, it's about the mindset a HB mama has when she experiences birth. You will take that with you where ever you are. I hope you're doing okay. PE would not be fun at all and I'm glad you're getting the support and care you need.
hoti- I think your reasons for being over it at the moment are completely valid. Ride the wave, I know you'll lift up soon. I'm sorry you're going through this slump at the moment though.
HotI, I know that slumpy feeling. I think I have been more emotional this pregnancy, and 2 weeks ago that is how I was feeling. I think I've tuned the corner now. I'm feeling excited about the new baby. New baby boy!
Of course now everyone in the house except my energetic 4 year old is sick.
SunnyLove, I really like that Dr Suess excerpt. I'll be re-reading that one a few times.
Yes that's right, couvade syndrome. Last time he was mildly nauseous, this time he is wanting to go to bed at 9:30 along with me cos he feels exhausted. Bless his heart.
Oh the nausea has kicked in now. Oh the joys! Just want to go curl up somewhere and ignore my children.
HotI - hope this slump is just a short-lived thing and soon you're feeling like yourself again!
Eenee - how are things going?
Arimeh - what's new at your house? Has the flu passed by now?
Bella - how are you and your pregnant hubby? I hope the nausea isn't too severe for you! I think that was the toughest part of my pregnancy this time - I felt TERRIBLE in the first few weeks.
How's everyone else doing?
Caleb and I are still doing well - just a quick question from me for all of you:
Do you give your midwife a thank you gift? Got any good suggestions? Here's the scenario: I had four midwives involved in my care, so I'm not quite sure what to do. One (Christine) was assigned to be my primary care midwife at the beginning of my pregnancy, and did all my early prenatal appointments, but then was switched to be my second when the midwife (Debbie) who delivered DD5 returned from leave (she had broken a wrist, or something...?). Debbie does a job-share with another midwife named Lindsay, so they together were my primary care midwives. I saw them each a couple of times in the later half of my pregnancy. Then, as a back-up, clients are assigned a third midwife, whom they see once. (Joanne. She was also there at DD5's birth.) So I saw all of these ladies through my pregnancy, and then at the delivery, Debbie and Lindsay were both off, and Christine and Joanne attended. My post natal visits have all been with Debbie again.
The gift-giving budget is not THAT big, so I can't get anything too huge here. Do you think I should get a little something for each of them (gift certificate to book store...? Bath and Body shop? other...?) or something for the practice? (books or DVDs for the lending library? Feel free to suggest titles - I can check what's on the shelf when I see them this week. I was thinking about a copy of Hello Baby, but I could probably get a couple others as well.)
Any suggestions would be appreciated!
i bought a midwifery book for my student, and a shoulder bag that had a birth type image and saying on the side for my midwife.
I know Rhea Dhempsey has a new book, and they probably won't have that on their shelves. I haven't read it yet, but i do like her readings and talking.
Hi all!
I'm jumping back into this thread, we are expecting baby number 3 in March. Our second birth was a homebirth. So getting ready to do it all again!! Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
Cricket: check out etsy...i got my midwives some lovely screenprinted canvas totes with the motto: keep calm and call the midwife. they were really affordable (i think AUD10). and i put in some nice soap and chocolate and a thank you card with a picture of DD3 on it.
Bella: i had no idea there was a name for when your DH goes all pg on you hahahaha. mine had it a bit as well in the beginning! i feel for you with the nausea i had it really bad for my last pg. i used seabands and switched to a plant based prenatal vitamin and upped my protein particularly in the morning and just before bed (cheese and crackers and eggs and mushrooms were my best friend lol).
Cricket - yup everyone is better now, thanks for asking Not much happening here! lol
Lady Bug - congrats!
AFM - Um, yeah not much happening. Just doing what I normally do, you know, life and stuff............ I'm sure the baby will come when he's ready to come and I'm happy to wait
Congrats Ladybug and welcome. There are a few of us in here atm on number three baby and second HB.
Cricket, I got my midwives a Keep Calm and Call the Midwife mug. They loved them! From memory, postage and all was under $30 for two. I got them on eBay and they came out from the UK.
i had it really bad for my last pg. i used seabands and switched to a plant based prenatal vitamin and upped my protein particularly in the morning and just before bed (cheese and crackers and eggs and mushrooms were my best friend lol).
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