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Yeah I thought I would be the same, but I felt safe when my 2 midwives were there, and hated them leaving the room, I just didn't feel.. well.. safe!! So I figured if I have a few people there, I'm always going to have a "team" with me, and I won't give into the fear as easily as I did the first time.
How exciting to have your team! Im the exact opposite and HATE having people near me
Well... thats the plan...
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No i like that and i had three support people, OB and MW at DD1 birth! It was great to share the experince.
But this will be my 4th, i know i can do it and i just dont want anyone other than DH. Its a job to me not a journey (i have quick births) so it seems silly to have the fuss
Marcellus: Yes if i have the kids here i would want someone with them too! I dont want DH to feel that he has to split himself in 4 LOL!
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welcome Teni and Arimeh's Eden
Tegam: i think i'd be like you cos I hate crowds at the best of times, it'll just be me, DH and the midwife and oh yeah I said the student could be there aswell.
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Hi girls!
and a big hello to Teni and Arimeh
Teni: wahoooo!that is GREAT news about the midwife! hope you get the good news soon!!
Arimeh: I'm the same as you, I like my people around me lol! that said, they have to be my welcome people ITMS. I will have mum, DD, DH, and the two midwives. I reckon it's also 'cause i know that DD and DH will need people for them there as well. last time DH felt really left out (being a hospital so pretty common i guess) and no one asked him if he was excited and what he would like. this time he is really really looking forward to the birth plan meeting and defining his role and expressing his wishes as well. i feel really chuffed to have him on board in such an active and involved way...yay for HB and IMs!!
Tashybabe: having the hossy bag packed for that reason is what my DH refers to as 'scaring the ghost away' (it's an italian proverb but yeah basically is to ward off the event rather than bring it on ITMS)...hmmm mebbe i should put a coupla things together lol! although they are all together pretty much in a drawer ATM...
AFM: had my midwife appt yesterday!! baby is head down, burrowing into the pelvis as we speak
as i mentioned to arimeh we have our BIG PHAT birth plan meeting next (9 August)!!!!!! we are sooo excited. i will have nic, my second midwife sue and my backup helen there (as well as DH of course) and we will have about 2-3 hours to just go over everything. man, sooooo different to the 10 minute birth plan meeting with my OB where he told me that he can't stand ppl that come in with a list lol! DH is already planning a feast to feed everyone...including nutella pizza for dessert mmmm mmm mmmmmmmmmmm.
hope that everyone is travelling along well. bigto you all xx
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Welcome Tenibear and Arimeh's Eden!! Love to see more homebirthing women
Teni: I'm so glad things are happening with the Sunshine program! TBH I would have thought they would write you off as "high risk" so I'm super happy for you!!
Arimeh's Eden: So what does this make this birth? A HBAVBA2C?! Woohoo!!! I get the same fears that this birth wont work out and I haven't had previous c-sects, so I can totally understand why you would have your moments of doubt. I guess so long as we are as informed and supported as possible then if things don't pan out then at least you know you've transferred for a good reason. I always wanted to HB my children but I went to a birth centre last time and I'm scared that I wont get my HB this time and I should have had one last time and I'll possibly always regret the choice.
Cassius: Wow- you're cooking dinner for your birth plan meeting? Hmm... we have a breakfast meeting with Helen on Friday and I think I will make those pancakes I was planning. You'll put me to shame!
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Wow, a birth plan meeting! That sounds great.
Meow - how exciting to finally start out with your midwife!
I've suggested DH studies up on emergency childbirth just in case things go too quickly - he's cool with that. Is it a good idea do you think? I very much doubt it'll be too quick, but figure we might as well cover that angle just in case. Is there a good book or something?
My fear is that my body won't go into spontaneous labour. It's not really rational I know, but it's there. I spose the silliest thing is that the fear is only likely to hinder the start of labour...
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Oh- birth plan meeting reminds me of when I took my birth plan to one of my midwife appoints at the FBC last time. I got the stupid young midwife I had a few times (who made me scared of birthing there- more of a medwife than a midwife). She took the time to read it and discuss each point which was good but basically either said "Of course we'll do that" or "Nope, that wont happen" and made the whole thing look like a waste of time. Once I was in labour though the midwife I had was awesome and she obviously read it before I arrived and she followed it to a tee- set up the room with dim lights, used the doppler as little as possible, automatically declined the hep-b vax for us etc.
I also meant to talk about my H being at the birth. My H was central to the whole thing last time- we spent most the labour at home, just the two of us and once we arrived at the birth he was always within 30cm of me (most the time I was leaning on him). At the birth centre I only had him, my doula and the midwife (who came in and out anyway) so it was beautiful and calm. I'm actually feeling like this birth might not be as good as we'll need people here for my son and even then my H might get distracted with them/him at times. And the midwives may end up here earlier in labour I guess. We'll see- but I would like it be all about my H and I again if we can manage it.
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Thats wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too many letters... LOL
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Tegam- how are you feeling about your birth support plans?
Sorry Arimeh's Eden
My midwife came to visit this morning. First time for my H to meet her and it all went well. There sort of wasn't much to say actually as I think she expected more questions and concerns from my H but he's perfectly content with the whole thing so we're happily coasting along.
I asked her about the impact of the latest legislation- whether the fact that she now has insurance will impact my birth choices and whether the need to 'collaborate' (ie. subordinate to a doctor) for medicare will have anything to do with us. But all is fine and we'll jsut go along our merry way- only thing is she now has insurance for pre and post-natal care.
She felt baby's head and tried to get me to feel it- I think I did? I'm hopeless with that stuff!
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