Marcellus- I haven't read Ina May's books but I do love everything I see of her. I really should read her Guide to Childbirth- would probably really enjoy it.
Cassius- I can totally understand the nesting. I'm itching to start but I have 2 more weeks of work placement (so I should be doing home work right now!) then I can start. I've been thinking I'll feel the same near the end- that at every point the house has to be ready to be my birthing space because you don't know when it's going to happen! Thinking of you
Roryrory- Thanks for the hypno advice. I saw a hypnotherapist for my trauma from getting stitches last time and it helped. I found talking Helen helped a lot too as it seems pretty clear now that I wasn't given enough anesthetic so I feel less nervous about the possibility of needing stitches this time because I trust Helen to take the time to listen to me and not hurt me. Otherwise my only issues with the birth last time were the hospital rules so I've addressed that with an IM
I hope you get to stick with your midwife and benefit from the relationship you have developed. Getting so close for you now too My baby already has their head in my pelvis! The cervix bounces are not fun
em- you have an IM don't you? Are you just seeing these OBs to get free pregnancy care through the hospital system? Maybe it is time to ditch them if they're just causing you stress. At the least I'd call and say you already have plans tomorrow and you need to make an appointment at a later date- then you can see your midwife first.
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Posted by: em...
On: September 1st, 2010 01:21 PM
Meow: yep seeing an IM, was seeing the first ob cos had lot of bleeding eaarly on, but at what was going to be my last appt she told me I had to go and get a 2nd opinion about my decision to homebirth. Now i'm just thinking it will be a second lecture, so don't want to go but the last ob was making out that I HAD to go. And thats what I was wondering, do I HAVE to go?
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Posted by: meow
On: September 1st, 2010 01:29 PM
Of course not. They have no right to dictate over your birth choices. As a private customer choosing a HB it's completely your choice. If you were having a funded HB through their hospital then they could control whether you can access it or not- but as you've chosen an IM they have no control or say in the decision. I'd just cancel the appointment with the receptionist and not mention anything if you don't want.
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Posted by: Roryrory
On: September 1st, 2010 01:40 PM
Em I agree with Meow but another way to think of it is this can be your first step in being a protective mumma. Those who have kids already will no doubt concur that as a mum you have to defend your choices and your babes quite often, and in ways and to people you didn't expect. If you feel up to it you could go to the next OB appointment with a mindset of the defending mother bear? Not aggressive, but assertive? I know it is hard and I am not in ANY WAY saying you are wrong if you don't feel like this ATM but I often find myself trying to offer girls in BB an alternative view, just to get the ball rolling. Either way you decide what YOU are most comfortable with
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Posted by: Cassius2
On: September 1st, 2010 01:44 PM
---Quote (Originally by em...)---
Meow: yep seeing an IM, was seeing the first ob cos had lot of bleeding eaarly on, but at what was going to be my last appt she told me I had to go and get a 2nd opinion about my decision to homebirth. Now i'm just thinking it will be a second lecture, so don't want to go but the last ob was making out that I HAD to go. And thats what I was wondering, do I HAVE to go?
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short answer: no! from what i can gather you have planned a homebirth and have a competent and supportive IM that knows her stuff. they can deal with so much and are able to recognise all sorts of things from perfect pgs to complicated ones and can guide and support you just as much (but i totally believe a WHOLE lot more) than 'traditional' obstetric models of care. AND if the need arises at any point that the pg or labour or post partum period requires high risk care, then between you and your IM you can make the call to see someone at the hospital (for example, if i go beyond 42 weeks, i then have opted to see the fetal monitoring unit at the RWH for placental checks etc). big hugs babe listen to your instincts and if these people make you feel that way then they are so not the ones to be looking after you and bubba xx IMHO ya just gotta be ruthless and ditch ANYONE that doesnt feel right...but of course, this is just my two cents
Meow: yeah i reckon the nesting for a homebirther is sooo much more intense lol! cause you're right, you want alllll spaces to be at a certain standard of calm and cleanliness...pretty darn hard with a toddler, dog and two cats lol!
Rory: oh wow! you're already 35 weeks wow! that's a bummer about your IM being away so close to the EDD. that she will still be able to be there come what may with timing.
AFM: just had my 39 week appt! oohhh aahhh! never had one of those before lol! so weird being this pg! bubbity boo has moved back up (she was 2/5 engaged last visit). but my midwife reckons that is totally normal and told me that the night i had last week of 3 hours of contractions showed that she knows how to engage and can do so quickly, so not to be too obsessed basically lol! baby is also tending towards posterior position...noooooooooooo!!! so will have to do a bit more all four floor scrubbing action. ah well, surely there are more skirting boards to scrub
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Posted by: marcellus
On: September 1st, 2010 02:22 PM
Em, I absolutely agree with the others - call and cancel. At the very least, if you are going to go later then taking some time to get yourself ready and organising some moral support is really important (like your midwife for eg).
You don't actually need that OB's permission. Do you trust your midwife? Do you feel comfortable with her? Does she make you feel safe and secure? If so, then seek her advice first. (and ask yourself if you trust the OB and feel safe and secure with them.... I'm guessing not and that really is important - for you and your baby).
How many more posts before your baby arrives I wonder Cassius... can't be too many now
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Posted by: *Infinity*
On: September 1st, 2010 09:15 PM
Cassius honey.....be aware that I am starting to stalk you. I am getting very excited about you birthing your bubba at home. Good luck hun as you prepare to welcome your little one in your sanctuary.
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Posted by: Tegam
On: September 6th, 2010 07:12 PM
So went to the local public hospital today for the normal booking in appointment with the Dr!
Got the normal lecture on the dangers of HB quote " cant believe you would want to take that risk!"
then later when we were talking about IF baby came quick and i was at home...
quote "well you just need to remember that it would all be ok, birth is natural and you have done it 3 times before, youd be fine"
so whick one is it lady! Risky if i PLAN To be safe and PREPARED at home but if im not prepare then everything will be fine???
IDIOT!
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Posted by: marcellus
On: September 6th, 2010 08:05 PM
That's too funny Tegam!
I am wondering how my apt will go - it's the week after next. My middies regularly use this hospital as their backup, so i guess it'll be straight forward. I sincerely hope it's the only time I have to go there.
Still with us Cassius...?
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Posted by: Roryrory
On: September 6th, 2010 10:13 PM
Tegam that is a crack up LOL! Fingers crossed for you marcellus
And yeah, Cassius, how are you ??
crapola - just realised I am a month from my "due" date !!
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Posted by: Spicemum
On: September 8th, 2010 10:46 AM
Wow
I've read this thread from the beginning and kind of reached a crishendo towards the end. How exciting.
Cassius - Big Congrats
Cassius and Meow - How funny on the food thing with Helen. I'm catching up with hear early AM in October. She's my 2nd IM. What does she like for brekky?
Tegam - Loved your quote. Can i share with Mum - might help warm her to the idea a bit?
Em - Sometimes it's obvious when obs are being ignorant. My first this time tried to get DH to take his side. 2nd told me my pelvis is small based on baby sitting high at 16 weeks (I've previously birthed a 4.3kg). Third was an IM.
As I've read I've wanted to join past conversations LOL
Planning HBAC December - due 25th .
Have to leave it here because DS9 is nagging me to play Wii with him.
Looking forward to hearing and sharing more with you all.
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which PHI approves HB?
Posted by: airyfairy
On: September 8th, 2010 12:15 PM
Just wondering which PHI has approved HB, and how long you need to be a member?
very early days with #2 and would LOVE a HB...looking for info to persuade hubby
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Posted by: Arimeh's Eden
On: September 8th, 2010 01:32 PM
Welcome Spicemum - all the best with your HBAC
Airyfairy - I know my PHI doesn't cover home birth, but my middies are pretty cheap - only $1500 all up (thats including the birth and all appointments)
I get to call my midwife in 3 weeks time - yippee!! Appointment with the hospital here tomorrow, I guess I'm just there to check in as an outpatient since I did tell my GP that I was planning a home birth.... but will be interesting to see what they say about my plans
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Posted by: marcellus
On: September 8th, 2010 01:41 PM
Hi Spicemum!
Airyfairy, Jennifer13 found a PHI fund that covers homebirth. If you scroll up the thread you might find reference to it (or it's possibly in the previous thread.... not sure)
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Posted by: tashybabe
On: September 8th, 2010 01:50 PM
Airyfairy - Australian Unity covers HB, but you need to pay for their top cover and must be covered for 12 months prior to the birth. You also need to apply for homebirth refund in writing before the birth.
I haven't been in here for a while. We were planning a homebirth but as you may know, that didn't work out with Leo coming early. I still see it as a "success" for homebirth as we transferred for a good reason and all up it should have been a good outcome. Leo was 35wks and breech, so we'd never have done that at home. I do credit having an IM for why we had such a good birth and didn't end up with a c-section. Without her advocacy it would have turned out alot differently and made everything worse. Leo's death had nothing to do with the birth or ante-natal care. It was congenital. At least with an IM and our own stubborness we got a great birth.
I hope in future we can have the peaceful homebirth we were planning. I still think it's the best way for a low-risk pregnancy.
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Posted by: Mayaness
On: September 8th, 2010 02:50 PM
Too true, Tash
If any of you ladies would like to participate in research into the role of liability insurance in homebirthing, PM me, as there is a lady who is doing telephone interviews for her research. She'll email you a consent form she'll need you to return, for her ethics clearance. I did it today and it was very thought-provoking and got me all passionate again about why I choose homebirth. Having an IM means I don't even have to worry about suing for negligence, because everyone is involved and interested in best outcomes for mother and baby, not hospital and doctor.
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Posted by: Roryrory
On: September 8th, 2010 05:33 PM
Maya count me in - you've got my email addy
Tash avoiding a c-section was a great thing for you and Leo's brothers or sisters
Well as for me, my bub is head down - nothing's gonna stop us now (ohno - I just channelled Starship....)
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Posted by: Tegam
On: September 8th, 2010 07:17 PM
woohoo Rory, head down so early with your 3rd! Gonna happen sooner rather than later!
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Posted by: Tegam
On: September 8th, 2010 07:19 PM
---Quote (Originally by tashybabe)---
I hope in future we can have the peaceful homebirth we were planning. I still think it's the best way for a low-risk pregnancy.
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Posted by: Cassius2
On: September 8th, 2010 10:17 PM
hi girls!
and welcome to the newcomers
thanks for all the well wishes and congratulations! we are floating on cloud 9 at the moment!! what an amazing experience!!! it all happened rather quickly with midwives getting there 45 mins before her arrival. there was no fear, just lots of laughing and support...and the best bit for me was being able to guide her out unassisted. so precious.
feel amazingly well and 'normal'. love being at home!
Tash: my friend mentioned something similar when she was transferred. she said that although it was scary after his birth she attributes his recovery and survival to the care, love and support that was provided during his birth and after by her IMs.
Rory: wahoooooo!!!! you're totally next now!!!
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Popping my head in here to say I can FINALLY actually be a waiting-to-homebirth member
I found out I was preg yesterday; should be around 4w3d or more, due around second last week in May. Dh has already said no homebirth but I told him to stick it, unless he was going to push this baby out HIS vagina then I'll do what makes me most comfortable. Im still tossing up whether to chance applying to the St George homebirth program here in Sydney (but apparently they are imposing zoning on it now so I may be too far away) or whether to go a independent midwife and do ante natal through my GP where the practice nurse is also a midwife with 30yr experience.
I'll prob lurk for the next few weeks until I reach 2nd trimester
Thanks Tashybabe!! Was such a shame to have Cassius's news lost.
Congratulations Freya!!!! Tell your husband to do some research on homebirth... once he sees it has better outcomes than hospital births then how could he even doubt it. There needs to be more research into the outcomes for mothers (such as PND and PTSD) on homebirth vs hospital too.
Thanks for the tip Meow but Im not sure it would change his mind. Even worse is that he knows my labour/deliveries are easy and uncomplicated. The stats of anything really bad happening would be slim to none; and would not decrease if I was in a hospital. Unfortunately no hospitals in my area offer waterbirthing and most of them have very bad reputations, Id feel much safer and happier at home.
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