Posted by: meow
On: September 1st, 2010 12:42 PM

Marcellus- I haven't read Ina May's books but I do love everything I see of her. I really should read her Guide to Childbirth- would probably really enjoy it.

Cassius- I can totally understand the nesting. I'm itching to start but I have 2 more weeks of work placement (so I should be doing home work right now!) then I can start. I've been thinking I'll feel the same near the end- that at every point the house has to be ready to be my birthing space because you don't know when it's going to happen! Thinking of you

Roryrory- Thanks for the hypno advice. I saw a hypnotherapist for my trauma from getting stitches last time and it helped. I found talking Helen helped a lot too as it seems pretty clear now that I wasn't given enough anesthetic so I feel less nervous about the possibility of needing stitches this time because I trust Helen to take the time to listen to me and not hurt me. Otherwise my only issues with the birth last time were the hospital rules so I've addressed that with an IM

I hope you get to stick with your midwife and benefit from the relationship you have developed. Getting so close for you now too My baby already has their head in my pelvis! The cervix bounces are not fun

em- you have an IM don't you? Are you just seeing these OBs to get free pregnancy care through the hospital system? Maybe it is time to ditch them if they're just causing you stress. At the least I'd call and say you already have plans tomorrow and you need to make an appointment at a later date- then you can see your midwife first.
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Posted by: em...
On: September 1st, 2010 01:21 PM

Meow: yep seeing an IM, was seeing the first ob cos had lot of bleeding eaarly on, but at what was going to be my last appt she told me I had to go and get a 2nd opinion about my decision to homebirth. Now i'm just thinking it will be a second lecture, so don't want to go but the last ob was making out that I HAD to go. And thats what I was wondering, do I HAVE to go?
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Posted by: meow
On: September 1st, 2010 01:29 PM

Of course not. They have no right to dictate over your birth choices. As a private customer choosing a HB it's completely your choice. If you were having a funded HB through their hospital then they could control whether you can access it or not- but as you've chosen an IM they have no control or say in the decision. I'd just cancel the appointment with the receptionist and not mention anything if you don't want.
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Posted by: Roryrory
On: September 1st, 2010 01:40 PM

Em I agree with Meow but another way to think of it is this can be your first step in being a protective mumma. Those who have kids already will no doubt concur that as a mum you have to defend your choices and your babes quite often, and in ways and to people you didn't expect. If you feel up to it you could go to the next OB appointment with a mindset of the defending mother bear? Not aggressive, but assertive? I know it is hard and I am not in ANY WAY saying you are wrong if you don't feel like this ATM but I often find myself trying to offer girls in BB an alternative view, just to get the ball rolling. Either way you decide what YOU are most comfortable with
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